Hello users of Hexbear, there have been many changes and some drama the past few months.
The recent changes we’ve been making have been an attempt to create a more safe and welcoming environment for many demographics that have been overlooked in the past.
For any of our comrades that have been unintentionally hurt in this process, we apologise and hope to find a solution that accommodates as many people as possible while still meeting the needs of the marginalised groups who need a space like this the most.
The intent of this post is to provide a space for all users to air grievances with regard to the site. As well as provide suggestions for specific things that could be changed to address your grievance. Comments insulting the mod team or those without a specific means to address your problem may be removed. No commenter will be sitebanned, unless it clearly breaks the code of conduct.
I really think the problems with the past couple of drama waves can be boiled down to “don’t govern the site by surprise.” Please, just TALK to us before you make big, sweeping changes.
I agree and slowing down has been a common theme when we have reflected on what went wrong, in addition to improving communication
Even though everything is arguably recorded here, is anybody taking minutes?
Is you taking notes on a criminal fucking conspiracy?
Fail to plan, plan to fail.
please give reminders every sixty seconds
yes on specific things that can be improved, i’m not writing down every post/comment
Pretty much this. The last big old blow up of shit was over doing changes without consulting the community first. Easy to fix.
I advocate for a grace period in regards to new site rules, where there is a week introduction period where we don’t fully enforce the new rules until that week is up, and just politely remind people during said time when we see the behavior crop up.
I just want more empathy.
Reading through this thread I see a lot of people with a lot of problems in their lives who use this site at least in part as an emotional safety blanket, who really need it to stay that way.
What this functionally means is that drama is kept to a minimum, and that behaviour where some people take a situation from 0-100 instead of talking, assuming good faith and coming to understanding is discouraged or actively fought as it’s a corrosive behaviour that I do not think has ever led to anything good on this site ever.
Lastly I’ve already mentioned, but vibes-based moderation must be avoided such that a moderation action can be described to neurodiverse members of the site in an explicitly understandable and non-vague way so that person can actionably change that behaviour.
I think y’all are way too comfortable with banning a comrade in otherwise good standing from the site for all time based on a single day’s series of interactions where they said something wrong or got heated or defensive. I think the same goes for removing comments or temp bans when someone says something a particular mod disagrees with.
We all have bad days, we all make mistakes, we all have bad takes, and not everything requires mod action.
The attitude I see mods repeatedly voice to justify banning a comrade for all time is that they can just make an alt so w/e. Can you imagine a community you get significant psychic peace from all telling you they never want to see or talk to you ever again and your first response is to go buy a disguise so you can go join the group again?
(I also think requiring temp bans to post in c/selfcrit is psychotic. Being banned or even just being flamed on the boards is humiliating enough, and people learn from those experiences. Forcing the users to engage in this humiliating public process feels like an abuse of power.)
I just wish y’all were more comfortable doing nothing sometimes.
I just want to acknowledge that we had a thread wherein users expressed anxiety that they would now be forced to post in the self-crit comm as part of moderation action against them. These users were assured that this was not the intention of the comm and that it was a place for voluntary self-reflection.
Basically immediately after this users started getting temp-banned and told that it would be made permanent if they didn’t post to self-crit.
If this had not been answered already, I’ll say this mistaken idea has been correfted and should not occur ever again.
Self-criticism, among quite a few other Marxist concepts that are often dogmatically thrown around here, only apply to be enforced upon members of a communist party. something hexbear is not. Therefore any such act of self-crit hereafter must be purely voluntary and not utilized as a tool to bludgeon over the head those whom empowered individuals may have petty disagreements with.
Appreciate the response. I had noticed it hasn’t been happening more recently, but there also haven’t been as many local bans so I wasn’t sure if anything had changed there.
That requirement is no longer a site policy and won’t be included in mod log reasons. We want people posting in that community to be genuine and not feel forced, which diminishes the meaning of those that choose to post thereReplied from inbox and hadn’t seen Alaskaball’s better reply
I think that posting outside of megathreads should be encouraged. I don’t really engage with them much because I think it’s a bad format for discussion, though I understand that other people like it, but a lot of posts really should be posted in communities as posts I think.
If thousands of posts are instead comments, we look a lot less active as a website.
I find the megathreads vague and confusing in all communities. There can be so much dissonance between when people are yapping about their day and talking about deep subjects literally on the same post. It’s like we’re all just screaming in a hotel lobby.
Commenting on posts feels more like I’m exploring. Sitting in the megathread feels like a more passive way to engage with the site
This isn’t really something thay we can or should try to enforce though, it’s just a matter of preference. I personally like how you can just hop on the mega (for me the trans mega) and just post a positive comment about your day and walk alway without a bunch of engagement.
YES exactly it’s like our own little tiny microblog
I read the general megathread daily and you should try reading it, because I don’t you would say the same thing if you actually read it, it’s mostly people talking about their day or their lives which I don’t think would benefit from being their own posts and most people would not want to post about their day directly to the rest of lemmy we’re federated with, I can see it if you mean the news thread should just post the news updates as posts because at least that’s more applicable to anyone.
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longtime (20+ yrs) mega thread hater here.
they are stupid, yet people love them, so I am wrong I guess.
I just like the format of
SUBJECT: ________ BODY: ________ ________ ________ ________ URL: ________ IMAGE:________ COMMUNITY: /c/________
Probably due to being too email brained
I think the megas should just be a chat window, since functionally that seems to be how they work (just shoe-horned into the reddit format)
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I like it more than traditional chat software, the thread style makes it so much easier to keep up with the conversation
I just really don’t like having to avoid thr thread as the deadline comes up :(
Their feed-like look make them an easy transition for bsky refugees at least.
Not quite a chat, because those move a lot faster. And there is internal threading more so in the megas for people to reply to each other. I’d prefer a mega to a chat.
I think its microblogging. But not sure it would be technically trivial to integrate a feature like that into the site.
Why does it matter if the site looks less active than it is? It’s not like there would actually be a difference in the amount of activity if someone made a post in the trans community vs a comment in the trans mega, and the megas themselves are pinned to the top of the feed so I think they would be tough to miss. Personally, if posting in the megas were discouraged I would just post less, because I don’t feel the sort of things I comment in the megas would make good standalone posts. They are more like light chats or just talking about some stuff that happened that day, things like that.
The news mega would be the exception in my opinion, I do think that there’s often stuff posted in there that would be worth it’s own post, but I also don’t think it’s a big enough problem to warrant mods intervening.
I think I agree . I use the general megathread a lot, but could it just be c/chat? Maybe. I feel like the news thread could definitely just be c/news. The megathreads for communities I’m not a part of I couldn’t speak to. I think it would definitely be a huge drama to take away the mthreads
on a personal note I really appreciate @[email protected] megathreads and reading the post bodies which would be lost if relegated to /c/chat
True that
This is where I think it could be a cool idea to have those posted in their respective comms as they are, but cross-posted to effortpost, then every day a new effortpost coud be pinned. I remember in this last big upset that people were saying the effortpost comm was all but dead, and I think if the community itself could be pinned, or something like my other suggestion could happen, it could get a lot more visibility/activity.
Yeah apart from the news mega (and even that one is only neutral to me) I do not understand the drive towards megathreads at all. It’s just discord but with extra steps and if I wanted to be in a discord, then I’d be in a discord. I wanted a leftist redditclone, that’s why I came here.
It’s at least mellowed out a bit, but there has been a lot of push towards those in the past. It’s extra odd to me because the site seems to have a vibe of wanting to create agitprop and, at the very least, affecting the wider fediverse, but we want to discourage posting for some reason.
I don’t think we should get rid of them. Some people like them and they’re a part of site culture now, but I never understood the push for them.IMHO news mega sucks the most of all of them. I would like to see posts about news because then I can more easily know what’s happening in the world. News mega obscures a lot and everyone talking in shorthand I don’t understand.
And if you visit c/news it is a big collection of old pinned posts. Can only assume that is some kind of joke.
Yes the news mega sucks all the air out of the room and makes it very easy to lose track of current events if hexbear is your primary social media
Well it’s one I would trust more to give me a certain kind of perspective, and be selecting better quality links than others, if the others are concerned with general news at all.
But if most of the people who have the wherewithall to do that enjoy posting in the mega style, I don’t see much to do about it.
I like journalposting in the mega because honestly I just don’t want my venting about my job or living situation to be on the front page of the website. It feels more intimate I guess?
Users that get into fights with each other in the comments will be temp-banned from this community for 1 day.
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What a freaking goldmine of a username
I don’t know any bit that’s lasted as long as civility
Civility is eternal
I do miss the Neera Tanden account
I personally think this should extend past this post. Sometimes people don’t know when to step back on their own and continue to fight long after it becomes unproductive. 1-day temp bans provide all parties a chance to cool off and reevaluate their positions.
From the site or the community the post is in?
Just the community. That way it helps to prevent them from continuing to feud in the same thread. If they continue the argument in another comm then site-wide action may be a nessessary course of action.
This is anti-struggle-session thought
I have no issue with struggle sessions.
The problem is when it becomes something else and devolves into personal insults.
Some people like drama. I agree struggle sessions aren’t something we should avoid. We should keep them from devolving into personal beef and attacks and actually work out our differences
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My grievance is there aren’t enough posts about owls
You better step up your game then you filthy animal
this is the future that leftists want
Mods removing threads for incorrect comm should copy and paste them with all the comments in “correct” comm, if they received enough engagement.
Sorry if that’s sounds like work, don’t fucking remove threads from “wrong comm” then. Your 3 seconds of “correct bucket sorting is important for my deep learning model” is collective minutes of writing comments by commenters, show that you care eh?
And have mod comment if you think nsfw is not enough of cw/cw is incorrect, how the fuck do you think i have to fix incorrect cw, if i don’t know who to answer that i fixed the issue/title? I have to notice it was removed, search modlog like a nerd, see some reason with removal (one that i might agree with or might not, but be fine with fixing), and what then? Only alaskaball does it
We did establish an internal guideline of “if the post is more than X hours old and has over Y upvotes don’t remove it”
An upcoming lemmy patch will notify users of removals and we could do better at encouraging mods to make a comment/send a dm informing a user of a CW violation when you remove a post/comment for that reason
for the record i don’t mind that much removing upvoted but not commented post, it’s whatever, i mind posts with discussions (this side of locking struggle sessions or two people arguing in bad faith)
And have mod comment if you think nsfw is not enough of cw/cw is incorrect, how the fuck do you think i have to fix incorrect cw, if i don’t know who to answer that i fixed the issue/title? I have to notice it was removed, search modlog like a nerd, see some reason with removal (one that i might agree with or might not, but be fine with fixing), and what then? Only alaskaball does it
I got mentioned!
Wait was that a positive thing or a negative thing I got mentioned for?
Positive, i’ve seen you comment to add a tag/nsfw or get removed in some posts, at least it’s a clear avenue to respond to responsible for removal mod (instead of nebulous “add a tag and it will be reinstated” in modlog), and one, who likely would be online
I don’t assume mods recheck posts (and that sounds like meaningless work), but couple of times i added nsfw tag to deleted post, according to modlog, and then i don’t know who to ping, and the post is not returned
thats something I should bring up with the other news mods. I think the kids do a good job but its always helpful to keep everyone on the same level
before I forget hey @[email protected] @[email protected] @[email protected] @[email protected] @[email protected] just want to make sure we’re on the same page regarding the occasional report that drops in the snewze modbox that we actually drop a comment letting the poster know what’s going on, what should be corrected, and giving them a point of contact to poke whenever they get around to fixing their post, maybe even letting them know there’s a certain window of time to correct it before it get removed. That last part on actually removing things will be up to your discretion as usual.
I don’t think we really have too much to work on besides the usual drudgery of trying to get the herd of cats to source their info and other such.
Will do.
Joke suggestion: let’s repurpose the tracker bot to Reddit-style demand a source from top-level comments without a link and auto report since nobody else reports.
I need to be more on top of that, I appreciate the reminder!
Oh I am definitely not doing this so thank you for the reminder. I will shape up!
tyblt
Yes sounds good, I’ve done that before
You are honestly an exemplary moderator and admin. No bit, no joke, if “being a moderator” was a college course, studying you would be required.
yeah this is all very real, if a little hostile, the mod tooling on here is atrocious still and mods need to be way more consistent about communication to make up for that.
the mod tooling on here is atrocious still
In its original implementation, the mod tooling was the outcome of a recently unemployed machinist who had never moderated a web forum or used such tooling learning Rust in two weeks and slapping something together. It is dog shit and can use a total overhaul (I am allowed to say this).
Sorry if that’s sounds like work, don’t fucking remove threads from “wrong comm” then. Your 3 seconds of “correct bucket sorting is important for my deep learning model” is collective minutes of writing comments by commenters, show that you care eh?
If mods keep on pulling this shit, the solution is to just post in multiple comms and let the mods sort it out. Imagine opening a support ticket only to have someone close the ticket because you didn’t properly categorize the support ticket.
Imagine opening a support ticket only to have someone close the ticket because you didn’t properly categorize the support ticket.
StackOverflow moment.
Juan Guaidó should be installed as temporary admin until we can figure out what’s going on with these owls
I would love to have more micro-transactions, possibly a subscription service named Hexbear Red that would give access to all emojis.
Can we also have some AI driven features to make posting more efficient and productive?
Another good idea would be to partner with businesses to present exiting new products and services to the Hexbear community!
No, seriously, I’m quite happy with the site as it is. People here are much kinder and a lot more interesting than anywhere else on the internet. Whatever the mods are doing, in general the end result is really good.
Not to be a , but has the community considered requiring linked sources in the news megathread? Like maybe not necessarily for everything (e.g., people commenting on or interpreting multiple pieces of news or events), but there are lots of “news” posts that are just quotes from unnamed sources without any link or indication of where it came from, and I think that goes against the point of news and critical inquiry
that’s something you can gripe at the people doing so in the news megathread. Or gripe at the mods in there too.
wait a second shit I’m one of them
Easy fix would just be to call them out for being a - only reason I haven’t yet is because it would be like every other post in the news mega and nobody else is doing it.
But fuck it, I’m down.
This is one reason that whole situ doesn’t make sense to me.
Ppl just saying shit and maybe it makes sense in some context I don’t have.
but literally hypertext links are the whole concept of the World Wide (WWW). Why not just provide them?
perhaps unpopular opinion I’d like to discuss:
if frauddogg had been moderated like autismdragon instead of celebrated for null’s behavior, void might not have felt the need to delete null’s account when found out to be a former troop
this is not conspiracist, “mod-cabal” bullshit – it is undeniable that some people are moderated differently than the vast majority of users. I would prefer to not call out more examples – I’m not interested in a struggle session or interpersonal drama – but I have been poking around and saving them up since the TC69 incident, because “no investigation, no right to speak,” and I’ve seen how @[email protected] et al have been treated for trying to discuss this difference without having a fucking catalog of evidence.
if frauddogg had been required to treat other hexbears with the good faith etc called for in the Code of Conduct, would void have felt compelled to delete null’s account when the troop thing came up? would it have even come up at all in that conversation, if void hadn’t been consistently behaving belligerently towards others, including other em_poc users?
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effects on me personally, cw: self-harm
honestly, seeing void’s behavior get celebrated sent me on a mental health decline. I thought so highly of you all, and this is what counts as “most comradely” etc to you? I don’t get it, which makes me feel like either there is something deeply wrong with me, or that you are not the kind of people you present yourself to be and it would be safer to distance myself from you.
I’ve been working on that for the last couple weeks. 🤷 it is very lonely, but at least I’m not contemplating self-harm because my not understanding something makes me a fragile cracker Becky worthy of the wall. I have tried my best to be a good comrade here; I have tried to treat you all with an open heart, and though I am white and Amerikkkan and housed, I have never in my life been above 200% of the FPL, and I have repeatedly paid my own bills late to help people on /c/mutual_aid eat.
this place is deeply baffling, and if I could figure out somewhere else full of trans leftists where I could get news that isn’t entirely drenched in American propaganda, I would have already deleted my account.
edit1: removed an archive link per admin/mod request
edit2: changed another archive link to screenshots per admin/mod request
Agreed. There is a lack of consistency verging on preferential treatment and it’s had some very shitty consequences. I’ve seen people get modded for shit I get away with a here and there. The way all that went down was deeply dissapointing.
I dunno. I liked a lot of frauddogs posts and consider confrontation to bad ideas to be very good. However, only dishing heat and not being able to take it is a bad look. Its also pretty wild how its even possible to square US military history as good with all the anti imperialist discussions frauddogg partook in
Thank you. Incidentally I’ve been looking for that last screenshot everywhere, I wanted to submit it to copypasta as a “leftists navy seal” pasta. Do you have the whole screenshot? Or even better the post in text format?
I’d also like to point out to the people who are arguing over lack of receipts for deaththreats: Frauddogg consistently threatened violence on people. Sure there’s no way void could do anything, but if that’s the standard, shouldn’t we all be allowed to threaten each other as much as we want?
Anyway for further lack of receipts: I don’t take screenshots or archive or save or commit to memory posts that make me sad. I don’t save any posts, but still.Just because there’s no receipts (even though there is) it’s not like this isn’t a known issue. A year or two ago there was massive drama about some vegan user who regularly told people to kys. It took ages for any mod action then. At the same time I’ve gotten comments removed for telling people to suck my ass. Just like how we all get frustrated with libs who act obtuse so as to avoid engaging in an actual discussion, we have a tendency to do the same, when the discussion is one where we feel uncomfortable. Especially if we might have to cede that we could do better in actual practical ways rather than vague platitudes.
Another example of this is users who are very clearly alts of banned users. I know last big drama thread finally ended up with red-renewal-cosmonaut getting banned, as if it was not an obvious alt.
In general it seems to me that there’s a lot of people who assume the absolute worst of other users. I wish we had more empathy on this site.
Last thread was incredibly hurtful. I’m a wrecker doing some nefarious long con apparently. I’m secretly working to undermine the site culture and I am actually misogynist (this also came up in my recent discussion post) who wants to… turn a site with a userbase of 900 people into a new 4chan? I don’t understand this mentality. I dislike a lot of you, i disagree with a lot of you, but I at least assume (or try to, sometimes it gets too hard with some of the things I get called) that you’re coming from a place of good intentions.
it seems to me like there’s a group of people here who perceive “disagreeing with them” as being inherently reactionairy.This turned in to a bit of a rant and I went off on a wild tangent. I’m sorry.
Anyway thank you so much dustbunnies.
would void have felt compelled to delete null’s account when the troop thing came up?
Users who justify being part of the U$ military should be mocked and banned. We don’t let clean Wehrmacht people in here, and we shouldn’t let them in either. If I had been able to see the comments before deletion I probably would have posted a at null.
I used to be a shithead. people can change.
edit: all joking aside – genuinely, if you don’t believe people can change, then there is no hope for human society and we should all euthanize ourselves immediately to minimize destruction to the rest of the biosphere.
I would prefer to believe that it is worth trying to help people to change. I grew up deeply indoctrinated in evangelical bullshit and here I am, a mostly-anarchist commie-leaning bi poly lady with a trans son 🤷 change is possible
I want to be completely respectful to you, because I have seen you around and I like you, but I might fail because this is a topic very close to me and I very much disagree with you. It is not the onus of the oppressed to treat anyone with good faith. frauddog had a massive L with the military history brought up when it was that was not held and that is very unfortunate and does indeed color null at least a little bit differently for me, but even with that in mind and in regard to null’s conduct in pretty much every other instance, null had my respect because null never held water for anyone, and that energy is what is actually needed to affect change. I am not going to hold water for fools that want me dead in action or in spirit, and that’s a whole lot of fucking people right now, even well-meaning people. It was the case for frauddog, too. I haven’t gotten anyone to go back to wearing masks by being nice to them, by giving them the grace I am always denied. I tried that for 4 years and it got me chewed up and spat out. They deny my humanity either way; that is the default mode. So why would I be nice about it? If they want to change they have to want to change, and a lot of people, especially in the imperial core, simply are not there. That includes a lot of people here, too. There’s a reason this place is hemorrhaging POC users, and I think we should pay attention to that. I grew up a stupid evangelical Southern Baptist as well, but changing my behavior was never supposed to be on anyone else; I don’t blame anyone who heard me talking about evolution like it was the devil’s thoughts incarnate on the serebii.net forums in 2003 and decided I was some dumbass not worth talking to, and you shouldn’t either. None of them talking to me with kindness changed my mind then, only my own curiosity and dissatisfaction much later in life led to me seeking this out for myself. I think this is a much more complicated issue than simply “we must treat everyone with patience and kindness because people can change”; people are dying. We are at war and the time for kindness to those unwilling to show they deserve it is long past, and frankly vanishingly few people deserve it. Kindness is not a given at all times or by default. I deal with everyone who isn’t already in my good graces with immense distrust and vigilance. Believing people can change does nothing for me, but it sure is a nice idea, isn’t it? I trust in what people do, in what they show me, and when they show me, I don’t believe in anything else. That is all there is.
you are one of the people I respect the most on this site. I was not kidding when I said that I think of you every time somebody looks at me weird for masking in public. I care about you and your opinion very much, and I appreciate your taking the time to talk with me. in advance, I want to say that I have tried hard to make sure there was nothing hurtful or dismissive in this message, but if I failed in that or otherwise made this come across poorly, I would very much like to talk it out because the absolute last thing I want to do is hurt you.
or anyone else, for that matter. I have debated deleting my account a lot over the last few weeks. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I was only here for companionship and news; I don’t need either so badly that anyone needs to suffer for it. I would rather disappear than hurt any of you.
I am not advocating for anyone to be okay with anyone who dismisses their needs and agency. I am only advocating for the idea that it would be good to interrogate further to ensure they’re actually being dismissive and aren’t just an autistic person having a Theory of Mind moment.
I just learned last week that difficulties with “Theory of Mind” don’t necessarily mean that a person is incapable of understanding another’s point of view, but that it is also responsible for autistic naivete.
for example: the possibility that someone would purposely fuck with a /c/mutual_aid user for unknown ends just never even entered my mind until the fact of it was presented to me. how many other things do I just not even know about because the idea that anyone would want to behave that way seems crazy to me? lots. tons. this is why autistic people are so vulnerable to scammers etc. the idea that anyone would do that just doesn’t fucking occur to us until it is hammered in.
I am sure that there are a lot of conflicts generated from this deep misunderstanding, especially considering how many users are white people coming from the thoroughly-propagandized imperial core.
I don’t think anyone should tolerate shitheads. I just think that sometimes we are quick to assume shitheadedness of each other, and I wish that were not the case. and tbqh, considering how often frauddogg called out other em_poc users as settlers or crackers just because they didn’t post regularly in the em_poc megathread (is that required for all em_poc users?), I think it would help reduce the number of friendly-fire incidents.
it’s also part of the CoC, which I know you know better than I do. you’ve been here much longer, and you’re a mod.
- We are committed to providing a friendly, safe and welcoming environment for all, regardless of gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, personal appearance, body size, race, ethnicity, age, religion, nationality, or other similar characteristic.
- Please “remember the human” and be kind to your fellow leftists.
- Respect that people have differences of opinion and that every leftist has a place in our community. Discussing differences in theory is fine and encouraged, just don’t make it personal. Remember: Sectarianism is liberalism.
- We are a platform that welcomes anyone who wants to be here in good faith. With that said, we are also an intentionally leftist platform; conservative and reactionary ideologies will not be tolerated here.
you are one of the people I respect the most on this site. I was not kidding when I said that I think of you every time somebody looks at me weird for masking in public. I care about you and your opinion very much, and I appreciate your taking the time to talk with me. in advance, I want to say that I have tried hard to make sure there was nothing hurtful or dismissive in this message, but if I failed in that or otherwise made this come across poorly, I would very much like to talk it out because the absolute last thing I want to do is hurt you.
That’s very flattering, thank you. I was not hurt by anything, for the record, but I felt compelled to respond anyway. The “be kind because people can change” idea can be a conduit for a lot of unintended damage, I think, but this:
I just think that sometimes we are quick to assume shitheadedness of each other, and I wish that were not the case. and tbqh, considering how often frauddogg called out other em_poc users as settlers or crackers just because they didn’t post regularly in the em_poc megathread (is that required for all em_poc users?), I think it would help reduce the number of friendly-fire incidents.
is sensible, and I agree. I recall something happening recently with @[email protected] where I got on her case for what I thought was very typical COVID minimization, but she responded very openly and with a mind for actual change, so I changed my approach afterward. I hope my apologies were good enough in that moment, but I’d like to think that’s how it can all be handled… maybe that is my own autistic naivete.
it’s also part of the CoC, which I know you know better than I do. you’ve been here much longer, and you’re a mod.
Well, being a mod in any community on this platform doesn’t mean much for site-wide policy unless you’re also an admin, and I don’t even really do much in the first place, hah.
I was saying at the time that interaction happened, I think, that I was still culpable for not having been diligent enough in looking into the situation beforehand, and that I understood why what I wrote would’ve come across as the typical sort of COVID minimization. As I remember it, you’d said something like “none of you listen!”, and I understood this as speaking to a general trend. So the choice was then whether I would choose to adhere to this general pattern, or to break with it, right?
So frankly it would’ve been the same whether you apologized or didn’t, because the words you wrote as you wrote them were what worked in the end.
I think maturity is founded on self-awareness, so that’s what I try to aspire to. And this means knowing when you’ve got something in your mailbox that wasn’t meant for you, so to speak, right? So if someone is very rightfully frustrated about COVID minimization and ends up taking it out on you, then anything hostile that person might say to you should “slide right off”, because that sort of comment isn’t really aimed at you as such, or at least it isn’t aimed at any sort of fundamental trait of your character — it’s really only aimed at you if you choose to make it so.
This isn’t necessarily to defend “friendly fire”, but I guess what I’m getting at is that “remembering the human” goes both ways: that when someone is doing something you find rude and unreasonable, that there is always a context for it, even if you might not be aware of that context.
“remembering the human” goes both ways: that when someone is doing something you find rude and unreasonable, that there is always a context for it, even if you might not be aware of that context.
yes, this very much.
learning that frauddogg had been a troop made void’s behavior make a lot more sense to me. sometimes, when people leave religion, they become militant atheists; it doesn’t seem strange to me that someone would leave the military and be passionately anti-imperialist and ready to attack any inkling of that evil.
I’m with you on everything. Don’t delete your account! Your voice is heard and valued ❤️
I don’t think assuming people mean the worst is a great way to grow a movement, which is what the left needs to do. I don’t want us fumbling these historic radicalization moments because we have a chip on our shoulder from all the shit the world has thrown at us. I totally get why people would have that chip, I feel that rage myself, too, all the time. I love throwing it in the face of people from other instances who are clearly bad faith, or making edgy jokes and stuff.
But applying it to others in hexbear feels bad, because people usually find their way here because they don’t have many other places. They’re trans, communist, anarchist, autistic, etc in a world dominated by a bigoted liberal world order. Not to mention it proves what people say about us in other places, which would be a shame after that random guy who wandered in said we weren’t as bad as they thought we would be. If they ran into the wrong comment before, like one of the example ones posted above, they might have run away saying how we’re all as scary as the legends foretold.
That’s not what I meant, I do believe people can change ! However, people who are still harboring viewpoints that are in favor of imperialism should not be allowed on this site. If users like this do a lot of self crit and acknowledge their mistakes, I would not be apposed to them being here. However, users who actively believe that the U$ military is not a reactionary force, and that its soldiers should be treated with any level of respect should never be able to make it past account creation. This would be pretty easy to screen for with a question about the applicants views on American soldiers.
You and Ivysaur both mentioned that you would not have been welcome here at earlier points in your life, but you are now. Frauddogg is still in that earlier stage, and null have not rejected their indoctrination in favor of capital. If frauddogg was willing to change, I might accept them back in a few years, but I doubt that will happen.
However, people who are still harboring viewpoints that are in favor of imperialism should not be allowed on this site. If users like this do a lot of self crit and acknowledge their mistakes, I would not be apposed to them being here. However, users who actively believe that the U$ military is not a reactionary force, and that its soldiers should be treated with any level of respect should never be able to make it past account creation.
This isn’t representative of frauddog at all though? Like maybe I’m misunderstanding something but it sounds like you are saying this is the kind of person frauddog is and that’s obviously untrue. Frauddog joined the military as a teenager, and now as an adult is very aggressively against imperialism and colonialism. It’s not like null is an active troop secretly infiltrating this place. I think null should have had more humility in void’s last interaction on this site, like obviously having been part of the us military is pretty fucking shameful even if you were ignorant at the time, but it’s really bothering me how people have been acting as though null was like, a secret fed who actually loves the us military or some shit. And it’s frustrating to me that this is how null went out, because null had been talking about wanting to delete for a while due to the frequent racism from white users on this site, but since it went down like this if feels like that racism, that continues to harm users here, is being ignored in favor of pointing out a gotcha about a user they didn’t like. Idk, I know my thoughts are disorganized here but hopefully I’m making sense.
you are making sense and you’re not the only one who’s seeing it. you honestly said it much better than what i can say but yeah i think that some people on the site (except for those who spoke on it in the em_poc thread) are taking this one blunder and characterizing null as wholefully in bad faith as possible, especially those that may have had previous arguments with void.
i liked frauddogg and agreed with void a lot of the time and i think it’s fair to say that nulls time on this site has been void on nonstop defence, not without reason. i remember when null first posted on the site void literally got attacked alongside other poc users for hours for discussing racist white queers as a Black queer and some white queer users got fragile about it and claimed null was homophobic when null was obviously speaking to voids experience with racism in queer communities but some just didn’t like voids tone.
yes, null probably should’ve shown more humility in voids last conversation on the site and I don’t know the extent of it but people of colour don’t have to be perfect all the time!!! and the jumping to disregarding void’s very real issues with the site entirely and making void out to now be one-dimensional is not it!!! there’s a reason people voted for frauddogg in that new years thing, null spoke up when other marginalized users on the site were too tired and burnt out to.
also it wasn’t just frauddog that left and are thinking of leaving. driving away almost every Black hexbear user that i know of on this site is shameful!!! how many more poc need to leave before other white hexbears see that there’s a problem and humble themselves as being a part of it??
i just think it’s shitty and unproductive and inappropriate to keep talking about frauddogg in this way after void left, especially because null didn’t leave entirely because of voids last conversation but also because of enormous issues of white fragility, chauvinism, misogyny, and racism from other hexbears on the site.
anyway i really agree with what you said is what i mean. i’m really really bad at articulating my thoughts but idk whatever i’m just :deeper-sadness:
edit: added ‘also’ to paragraph five for clarity
to you and @[email protected] and any other em_poc user reading this:
I want to apologize for anything I’ve said that has given you the impression that I think frauddogg was a secret troop infiltrating the site or harbored reactionary views.
I absolutely do not believe that. I like to lurk the reading club threads sometimes, and null made some deeply moving and thought-provoking comments that I can’t imagine were anything but genuine. void made good contributions to the site.
on the surface, our personalities couldn’t be more different, but I have been known to get in faces about injustice irl and I’m sure there are people who know irl frauddogg as a sweetie. it takes all kinds, we all contain multitudes, etc. I won’t pretend I was a fan of null’s tendency to jump to insults in interactions with other local users, but I saw void’s popularity and understood that there were social dynamics I was just not comprehending. the popularity of that behavior became a puzzle for me – I wanted to see it the way others were seeing it, especially considering how many people were saying that everyone who didn’t get it was a cracker or fragile or part of the problem etc.
I don’t want to be part of the problem. I don’t want to be one of the white users making the em_poc users uncomfortable, and I worry a lot that my empathy comes off as apologia to you all. I worry in all my interactions, both online and irl, that my confused questions seem obtuse or judgemental because I get that feedback a lot, and idk how to fix it. after 40 years, the best I have come up with is apologizing thoroughly and often and hope it doesn’t start to sound insincere. I’m sorry for anything I’ve said that has hurt you or made you feel uncomfortable or unwelcome.
I mentioned the specific users I did because
- they are not active users
- the stark difference in their moderation history illustrated my point that some people are moderated differently than most users
- I do genuinely think null might not have felt compelled to delete void’s account if null had been moderated differently. it’s easy for a “take-no-prisoners” attitude to become “shoot first, ask questions later,” and that can make us vulnerable when we stumble.
the Code of Conduct is pretty clear about how we’re supposed to behave, and it reads to me like it’s not just about not hurting others but very much also not hurting ourselves. would frauddogg have expected grace from the community about the troop thing if null had been more willing to offer it to others?
I hope so. I would like to think it would have been given to void. I know I’m not the only person who read those book club posts and saw a beautiful person they were glad to have on the site.
However, people who are still harboring viewpoints that are in favor of imperialism should not be allowed on this site
In that case you’d lose most of the userbase. We should not expect perfection or lack of brainworms of each other. Go look thru old/controversial posts if you want to see how much the site vibe has changed and how much current users have grown. Heck even recently there was the post about users cheering on the US if it invaded Greenland.
As long as people aren’t being assholes they should be welcome. (Not arguing for a marketplace of ideas or debate or anything silly like that.)You and Ivysaur both mentioned that you would not have been welcome here at earlier points in your life, but you are now. Frauddogg is still in that earlier stage, and null have not rejected their indoctrination in favor of capital. If frauddogg was willing to change, I might accept them back in a few years, but I doubt that will happen.
Yeah that’s the vibe I mean. I guess this comment was pointless, sorry.
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
I did not care for that poster’s screaming at the computer screen and am glad to read of null departure. I always thought it was a wrecker account and came to this site less after the popularity contest
I have a lot to say about frauddogg, but I’ll say these:
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Frauddogg has done innumerable harm to the POC here because through Frauddogg’s lack of disclosure as a vet, arrogant attitude, and disgraceful exit, nobody is going to take what Frauddogg said seriously. Whatever potential for self-growth that could’ve happened with respect to unexamined white privilege among some users has been lost because they’ll just mentally say, “Lol, fuck you, I don’t have to take this shit from a baby butcher. How about you selfcrit for invading a sovereign country instead of getting on my case for being racist?”
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The circumstances of Frauddogg’s exit had also planted a seed in many people’s heads, which is that the anger isn’t actually genuine or coming from having to live as a member of a marginalized community, but due to some personal inadequacies or grievances instead. For Frauddogg’s case, it would be being a former member of one of the most anti-POC organizations in world history.
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Frauddogg, despite the baggage of being a US soldier and messaging that rubbed some people the wrong way, was more right than wrong when it came to how weird Hexbear is towards POC. There’s are some things I didn’t agree with, but the broad message is largely true.
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There are plenty of POC who are as angry and confrontational as Frauddogg was but unlike Frauddogg, lack the baggage of being a US soldier. They are as angry as Frauddogg was, but they do not have the same baggage as Frauddogg.
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However, if those POC somehow make it here, the seed that Frauddogg planted in many people’s heads would’ve bared fruit. And the fruit is “oh, you’re just angry because you’re overcompensating for having skeletons in your closet. You’re angry because you are a vet/grew up with white people and are overcompensating because you are insecure about your racial identity/are biracial who’s raised by the white side of your family/blah blah blah. Your anger is not coming from a genuine place, so we shouldn’t have to respect your anger nor interrogate why you feel so angry because your anger is a personal problem, not a symptom of a systemic issue.”
I think this will have further repercussions that I haven’t foreseen yet. I’ve seen some people claim that Frauddogg was a wrecker and other people insist that Frauddogg actually quit because of how unwelcoming Hexbear is towards POC and not because of the disclosure. This is not good for the site at all.
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I agree with this, that user posted two specific comments relatively recently that I felt were excessively vitriolic and should’ve been removed in the very least. This is addition to the baseline sustained hostility, a little thing I noticed a while back that was also inappropriate, and a clear case of one rule not being enforced with this user. When it came out that user was in the military that only made things worse.
I thought fraudogg self-deleted after going on a bender about being a troop?
The bans and subsequent loss of @[email protected] @[email protected]
and [email protected]] (dont recall if fanon was banned, but I haven’t seen them around)were bullshit and the mentality that lead to them really needs to be dropped. I also haven’t seen @[email protected] or @[email protected] around for a long while. That sucks.We all have petty grievances, but I really wish those who think they are responsible enough to moderate a community would be responsible enough to leave their private issues at the door.
Brace yourselves for and about 10 new communities emerging
Every post should have its own community.
Every user should have their own community
Oh crap I just reinvented twitter
The inverse cth3
And every community its’ own mega
I can’t wait for lemmy to develop comment level locks to reduce the amount of
They do have a maximum comment depth that we’ve hit on the
what was this about
Incident
What is a comment level lock
a mod tool being developed that rather than locking a post, locks a top level comment
That’s huge holy shit
Locking a thread but for one comment chain, or for only one portion of a comment chain
Probably when reply chains get too long the website says “Oops, I can’t let you do that Dave - time to start a new top level comment”
I don’t think it’s actually useful, it will just make those long comment chains convoluted and difficult to navigate as people try to work around it while maintaining the convo/comment chain. Generally when threads get that long it’s because people are posting passionately.
That’s a great emote omg
Was making an official mod statement about the correct way to post about luigi really necessary?
It’s also not entirely clear to me if posting about Luigi is still banned on c/cth or not