Hexbear’s new head of operations just dropped, and their way of dealing with the fallout of their last struggle session is to hand bans out like candy to their concerned and disillusioned users while throwing out “epic” quips like insecure teenagers along the way coupled with their communication (and seemingly contempt) towards their own userbase which isn’t helping their allegations at all and the revelations that were learned about Hexbear’s moderators and admins from their most recent struggle session.

The last few days have honestly shaken my faith in Hexbear and their team and I hope the mods and admins at Lemmygrad are monitoring the situation closely.

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    Late-stage irony poisoning

    In addition to the first ban wave which was partially a bit or something cuz people requested to be banned so TC69 used a random number generator but also entries in the modlog that have the RNG stuff weren’t people who requested it??, some of our admins are now banning their alts as a bit to start drama, other obvious alts are coming out to call it out and continue more drama, there’s more but… you get the idea :/

    Idk, this all started in an attempt to make our site more serious by replacing the_{dunk,dredge}_tank with higher effort alternatives and now that that didn’t go through it’s all a joke now

    Honestly I may log off for a while too, is not rly that funny to me :/ People on this site have literally fed me and my friend, kept us out of overdraft status on bank accts, I learned so much from reading stuff here or books I learned about from here, people have been housed cuz of this site, someone nearby legit offered to take care of one of my irl friend’s pets when he was homeless for a bit, I met new friends here that I talk to every day. It’s not a political party but it’s not just a giant shitpost either, so idk where this is going :/

    I’m sure this looks even worse from the outside wowee, but it’s okay, site has survived worse

    Like FuckyWucky mentioned, there is a lot of talking going on behind the scenes and no one outside rly knows what is going on sooooo… we see what happens I guess

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        the admins seem to have wanted HB to be more serious for a long time now, well before federation.

        LG is also not a left unity space the way HB is. it would only be a suitable fit for some (admittedly likely most) of our users.

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        Hexbears seem averse to posting here. When cheap dunking posts were banned, they created another tank comm instead of posting to SRS or SUS. Even now that the tanks are shut, there haven’t been any bears that’ve posted to lemmygrad’s equivalent comms.

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          Hexbear was around for a couple years before federation was a thing so a lot of people only ever post there.
          Also, and I say this as a frequent Hexbear poster, the average Hexbear user has read zero theory and just wants somewhere lefty to shitpost. There is not a ton of overlap between them and people that use Lemmygrad/Leftypol/etc

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        Idk tbh, regardless I feel like they don’t have to be contradictory

        I come to this site for the shitposts and the genuine discussion and political education resources

        I should also mention the proposal post later also had statements from mods who said they proposed the idea cuz they thought “dunk” culture has “cishet white vibes”, which… idk, is maybe fair, Hexbear is rly white sometimes and I would hate for people to be put off by that (good reason to be put off ofc). It wasn’t rly elaborated upon though

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      Honestly almost all of the response by leadership vs users is temp bans, so I’m thinking actual damages aren’t even that bad? But the blood is up so maybe cooling down while whatever behind the scenes stuff gets figured out might be good.

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        Was a long time HB member since the subreddit days. Autistic, black, nb, so none of the accusations of cishet white male vibes applied to me - that was annoying. The flippant dismissal and joking around with this entirely irony poisoned energy with mods still doing bits and lying about shit was straight up aggravating. Ate the perma because like a few people there, I don’t think I could trust the mods/admins after that. It’s not a high stakes thing for me but that means it’s also low enough stakes that I really don’t want to deal with that attitude any more.

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        Yeah we probablydefinitely all need to relax lol, regardless there is def criticism to be made about this whole behind-the-scenes adminning thing that developed after our chaotic first year needing to… idk… have more democracy again? After this whole thing especially

        I just saw a bunch of people get unbanned now so idk, hard to keep track of it all

        I’m gonna go, like… make a meal and do and think about something other than niche web forum drama now lol

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        wonder-who-thats-for hehehe

        Tbh I just ate some decent food (after not rly eating anything for a few days cuz of external factors™ in my kinda bad life-situation rn), pet a cat, read your reply in the struggle sesh megathread, feeling less bad about the whole thing

        Really appreciate you genuinely just clarifying what happened including what the rest of the admin team saw, I feel like most of this is just rly bad communication primarily from admins/mods but also the rest of the users (sucked seeing Carcosa’s decision get completely torn apart so badly that they tried to resign before the userbase rejected that lol, I hope they not too stalin-bummed about it especially cuz how much they do for our site regardless of this one thing). It’s still been a total mess but it’s nothing irreconcilable or unfixable

        10/10 perfect bad-good-good-bad bit 07, I hope your recovery from food poisoning is going well cat-trans

        Long live the cabal :3

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      They reversed a few bans, but not mine. So apparently something I said was particularly objectionable. I’m not sure what though.

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        I figured it out: It’s people who were banned with the haha funny bit reason when it was pointed out they hadn’t actually requested a random ban and were clearly just banned out of spite.

        This does seem a lot like the mods wanted to obfuscate the bans of people being critical

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          Yeah, seems like they’ll be justifying it by saying they are just “temp bans” so it is ok. But it’s still pretty fucked up for their biggest critics in the thread to be effectively silenced for “going against the (mod) hivemind” or whatever libs say about us.

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    I feel the same. Ironically the mod’s attempts to make the site more “serious” is probably just going to do the opposite. I’ve spoken at length about this before, but you don’t get people to learn and discuss leftist theory by insisting it is always serious business and you aren’t allowed to joke around or acknowledge how fucked up our capitalist society is.

    It’ll just chase people away, which is a shame, though that might be a “win” as far as the mods are concerned. There’s plenty of “serious” leftist groups out there with half a dozen members with their own very specific interpretation of theory with 0 fun allowed, but I can’t really think of anywhere else quite like Hexbear. I don’t want to see them become yet another insular “leftist” space that is actively hostile to people who don’t take themselves as seriously as the world’s most dedicated Internet Leftists.

    I’m probably overreacting though, as others have said, this isn’t the first time mods on Hexbear have gone full reddit mod and won’t be the last.

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        I recently made a post asking why people joined us and like most of them said they stayed because of the shitpost vibes. Making us into a serious only space would be a very, very bad idea if we want to keep being Hexbear.

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          To reiterate what I said in one of the stickied threads, if any mod has a problem with a core component of Hexbear culture and aesthetic, the problem isn’t with Hexbear. That mod should just go join another instance.

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    I am once again asking a bunch of fringe online leftists to stop being so delulu as to think themselves as the new international vanguard ffs

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      This too. The serious platform shit is not happening. You scroll down to the bottom of Hexbear, click a link and you get a picture of a pig pooping on it’s own balls.

      The entire space is literally synonymous with that. The Pig Poop Balls Vanguard isn’t gonna be a thing.

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        Yeah it’s crazy to try and make Hexbear ultra serious when the whole reason many people even found and like us is because we made fun of terrible right-wingers and making light of the hell world we live in.

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    It seems they’re just trying to memory hole it now.

    The newest statement claims everyone was unbanned, which isn’t true. The sockpuppet being used for the new post claims that it was all drama over the AlaskaBall misgendering and banning, which isn’t true. So here’s my extremely biased version of events(They banned me for opposing their bullshit, thus creating this bias.)

    The mods wanted to rename the dunk tank, due to the racist origins, but due to federation reasons renaming communities doesn’t work properly, so they locked it and the dredge tank entirely and replaced them with poorly defined pseudo-replacements.

    People question this choice and are given a mod statement that misgenders most of the website at the same time, and contains a self-harm reference without a CW.

    People question this post and the admin that acted as the mouthpiece steps down. The thread is locked and a new one is made.

    Basically no one wanted that and most people want the admin back. The admin comes back.

    AlaskaBall bans themself from a new alt, and then when questioned on it, misgenders themself. This was the misunderstanding element of this.

    Stuff blows up massively now, since an admin seems to have done something very transphobic and uncool.

    Another thread is made, where dissenting voices are banned for three days. One of these bans is reversed and no longer shows in the mod log.

    TC69 does a “joke” and posts offering random bans to replies, she then bans people who don’t reply to that post with the same message.

    This is around when this thread is made.

    Then another thread, using a brand new admin alt, claims that the bans have been reversed (they haven’t)

    https://hexbear.net/u/DengistDonnieDarko

    https://hexbear.net/u/morte

    https://hexbear.net/u/chair

    https://hexbear.net/u/TerribleHands

    https://hexbear.net/u/REgon

    And the rest (me) remain banned. Only four of the banned users are actually unbanned.

    People have already pointed out that the bans haven’t actually been removed.

    Overall, the Hexbear admin team shoved a stick into their own bike wheel and are blaming he/hims, despite the obvious fact that can be seen by checking the pronouns of those linked users (and me).

    edit: I’m unbanned now

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    As someone with a 2 year old account, I have no fucking clue. What started out as misgivings over two comms being replaced has metastasized into whatever the fuck this is. It seems like there are contradictions that had existed since /r/chapotraphouse that were never fully resolved. I don’t know exactly what because I only occasionally lurked /r/chapotraphouse way back in the day. Mix in all these 2 month alts of people who claim to have been around since /r/chapotraphouse and it comes off as a bizarre mess. It really does feel like people with 5+ year old grudges beefing at this point.

    Anyways, this is yet another case of the news mega being the best part of Hexbear.

    • man why are leftist spaces online like this? feels like they’re too busy shooting themselves on the foot constantly to get their shit together while fascism and reich-wingers are taking over everything.

      at least this isn’t a problem in the grad from what i’ve seen (and hopefully never will)

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        man why are leftist spaces online like this?

        They don’t start off this way. People usually start-up communities out of genuine passion, but as time goes on the only people willing to babysit/moderate the community are people who spend a lot of time on the internet already. Eventually, the whole mod team becomes people who do nothing else but chat about the community/forum. As they reinforce each other, in their minds the importance of their community/forum grows. No longer is it a fun internet site, now it’s serious business, and that means that bad actors want to destroy. Then they give themselves carte blanche to “protect” the community. Naturally, with that kind of mindset anyone who disagrees with them is a potential threat, everyone who posts could be a bad actor in disguise, pretending so as to gain the community’s trust.

        What do you get? An insular, paranoid community, resistant to change, distrustful of new people, ruled by a mod clique with their own agenda.

        I don’t know enough about Hexbear to make a judgment, those are just my general observations, but from little I’ve seen I think it is happening there too. The whole “I wasn’t lying to you users! It was all a sneaky ruse!” bit is actually sus, feels like damage control after being found out. The HB mods have clearly made their decision without the community and now they’re trying to find a way to frame the change so that it doesn’t piss off the userbase and result in them losing power or worse losing the userbase over whom they lord over. I haven’t seen an apology to the effect of “maybe we were wrong to delete the community” or “maybe we should have consulted the userbase”, it’s all “sorry we handled it poorly” and “I’m sorry we’re bad at communicating!” Very disingenuous.

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          I don’t think it’s fair to put it all on people who spend a lot of time on the internet. I’m very online due to a chronic illness and know what it’s like to depend on an online community to interact with people. Mod abuse happens due to too big fragile ego, simple as.

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            I don’t think it’s fair to put it all on terminally online people.

            In my understanding “terminally online” doesn’t mean people who spend a lot of time online (I know I have spent my fair share of time on the internet), it means people who are negatively affected by it, in a way that makes them forget that a website isn’t the end-all be-all or that on the other side of the wire is a human being with their own feelings, thoughts and emotions.

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              I edited my comment to use the same wording as you did (because you didn’t use the phrase terminally online in the first place).

              I don’t think terminally online is a very good phrase anyways because it’s often used to shame people like me who are dependent on online communities. It can be used in the way you describe but I think it’s better to clarify that to avoid a misunderstanding.

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                Yeah, I specified it’s mods who make a website their life. One can do many things on the internet/on a computer, there’s literally countless possibilities. Also, nothing wrong against helping online communities, mod work is important in removing not only fascists, bad actors etc. but also spammers, nsfw images, gore posters, phishers, scammers and so on. It’s when it crosses over from making a community run smoothly to bossing a community.

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                  Unfortunately dedicating such an amount of time as is required to handle the workload of a community as active as Hexbear with the amount of mods and admins we have means it does become a significant part of our lives and it would also be nice for people to recognize the amount of unpaid labor that goes into maintaining spaces like this.

                  It goes even moreso for Hexbear while trying to be a big tent space and maintaining some of the chaotic nature of the original community that gave it so much of its charm.

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        If there’s a silver lining, I don’t think this is limited to leftist spaces, or even to online ones.

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          Yeah, I don’t know why people frame this as a leftist thing. It might happen more, but it’s not unique.

          For the older folks out there; you have seen this sort of thing happen on MMORPGs certainly. In my anecdote, it happened to me in real life with a debate club I was in when I was younger lmao.

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      Leftypol is still kicking well enough, all the spinoff chans are mostly dead as far as I’m aware

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        Leftypol is still kicking well enough

        Nah, it’s a shit site. Run over by incels and sex/dating threads, plus too much porn/nsfw content. Some users were really adamant to allow porn on the site, even though one can find porn literally anywhere on the internet. Just goes to show the priorities of the people there. All the good posters are gone.

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    My take?

    It’s all dumb. Admins didn’t communicate effectively, made changes without making most of the community aware of it on a timescale that should have been days; as most of these discussions should be. A good chunk of the community is irate. Random bans are a method of obfuscation, all though I am doubting that’s actually what is happening here.

    Regardless, it is a website and we have this space here.

    TC69 immediately sets off red flags for me. It’s one thing to return and welcome yourself back; but the passive language they’re using suggests that they view themselves as some sort of cult of personality figure already, reinforcing the thoughts some have about that concern. The “random number ban” thing is literally just a flex of power, joking or not. I’ve seen that happen so, so many times in communities. It’s the same thing as “Who wants to get a bop on the head from my baton?”. Sure, it’s a joke.

    There are already quite a few complaining about moderation style from times past and upon immediate return they make a comment on how the “website has improved” yet still needs an entire overhaul/COC. REgon, usa_suxxx is banned, all though unsure if that is changed now. Also, the thread was locked on that discussion.

    It’s all just red flags. Maybe it’ll be a good thing, maybe not. To me, Hexbear did a really good job already on cracking down on shitlibs and misogynistic fucks. Where the hell is this rampant offenses occurring? I don’t doubt we have some idiots wander in and that things were worse before, but this is being treated like we have an active crisis in Hexbear. Which, I don’t really get.

    If I’m wrong, I’ll be happy to be wrong and I’ll be more understanding of TC69’s more heavy-handed approach to moderation. But is there like some mass DM-harassment campaign I’m unaware of?

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    To prevent Hexbear’s internal struggle from spilling over to here and detailing this thread as a whole, we will be locking it. A lot has been said already in the comments and we feel like we are involved in Hexbear too little to a) contribute positively and b) moderate reports that require knowledge on Hexbear lore.

    I think I can safely say that we hope Hexbear manages to overcome their internal issues again.

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    I’m not familiar with what goes on there, so as an outsider, the fact that in skimming, some of the replies make more sense to me than the admin/mod posts doesn’t seem like a great sign for their leadership. Comes across like they’re acting based on vibes and don’t want to provide substantive examples to back up what they’re doing.

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    I don’t get much of it either. My guess is there is a lot of talk going on behind the scenes.

    I don’t think a purge right now is necessary especially given that the user count is pretty stagnant.

    It was all working fine. Splitting dunk tank into dredge tank was a good idea but idk why they removed and renamed it all together.

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      They said it was because “dunk tank” has racist origins, which it does, but idk I felt it was pretty excessive anyway. Almost nobody alive today even knows that and those that do are aware that it’s a term that hasn’t been used for over a century. It’s not even the same game anymore.

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        Yea no one was thinking about that. Blacklist, whitelist stuff all over again .

        And it’s not clear whether it’s even about its “racist origins” that’s just the reason provided.

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        Yeah I wouldn’t have guessed that at all. My only familiarity with the idea of a dunk tank is white people doing it to each other voluntarily as some kind of fair/fundraiser thing. I always thought the idea of it seemed kind of sadistic (not that I knew the word sadistic back then). But I’m taking it to imagine hexbear’s dunk tank is similar to the shitreactionaryssay that lemmygrad has, where it’s posting takes of people who aren’t even present, and in that sort of context, it seems more like throwing fruit at a picture of someone than anything akin to putting down someone who is trapped there and has to take it. There’s also “dunking on” in the basketball meaning, which is sometimes used to refer to putting someone down on social media, like ratio’ing a person on twitter. That one is more directly humiliating, but doesn’t use the term “dunk tank” and so unless the basketball meaning also has racist origins I’m not aware, we’re looking at phrasing that can quickly overlap and could be confusing to people to take as inherently bad or racist to use.

        If it was just a name change and it was an easy thing to change the name of without messing up links and existing activity and so on, I’d say, whatever, make it a name they don’t feel icky about. But the internet often doesn’t function that way. Screwing over logistics of user activity for the sake of feeling better about a name most people won’t even know the real origins of seems like an odd decision, to say the least.

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          The issue wasn’t the name change, everyone was fine with that and it should be done cuz the term has a racist history

          The proposal that started all this was removing “/c/the_dunk_tank” (where you can post bad takes and mock them however you like but they can’t be the bad takes of nobodies, so basically like shit_reactionaries_say) and “/c/the_dredge_tank” (for posting the bad takes of anyone, this was made after people got tired of seeing the lowest effort, repetitive, bad takes from random people so they could block the comm if they want) entirely and replacing them with “/c/counterpropaganda” (for posting instances of any reactionary rhetoric under the conditions that your post also had to include an essay countering the rhetoric) and “/c/gossip” (for posting only public figures’ bad takes, without the essay), the arguments for and against are in the 1200 reply struggle sesh post lol

          Sry if you already know all this, I’m not sure how visible this has been to other instances lol

          Idk, I get the intention behind it but it became clear this was poorly thought out and was not what most of the userbase (or the most active?) wanted. In the past certain issues like this have been resolved by purges (like our mandatory pronouns and anti-transphobia and anti-misogyny stances) of anyone who disagreed or couldn’t self-crit but this one does seem much more aimless and less concrete to me, to the extent it is even serious, tbh, idk :/

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            Sry if you already know all this, I’m not sure how visible this has been to other instances lol

            I don’t know any of it beyond what I’ve been able to gather in this thread and the linked threads, I appreciate the context. Tbh, I’m probably overreaching on having a take at all, only going off of what I can gather about it. But I am also kind of biased, I think, against anything that seems obsessive over the minutiae of forum structure in a way that can fail to see the forest for the trees. I’ve been on a number of forums over more than a decade, including from before I had communist views, and I think sometimes the ease of exercising sweeping power gets used as a justification to be more rushed in decision-making and execution than the circumstances warrant. Most things in the tangible world have to go through more of a process, even after a decision has been made, to make them a reality; and that makes the cost of a decision seem higher. The internet has costs of a kind too, but some of them are harder to see. Like understanding how people engage with a website in the first place, why they come, where they come from, what makes them stick around or leave and for what reasons, whether what they’re doing contributes to the goals of the forum, if it even has clear goals in the first place. All things that could get lost in overthinking if taken too far, but also seem to get neglected chronically across different types of leadership and subject matter of forums.

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        Does that make the dunk tank racist though? I mean, it could be interpreted in a revolutionary way: what once was a tool for humiliating black people is now being utilized against rightful targets, who are largely the people who would’ve been throwing the balls in the past. A device created for oppression repurposed into an instrument of justice for the oppressed.

        idk I’m not black so take that with a grain of salt. A simple name change would’ve been fine though.

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    10 days ago

    I know I’m an admin myself and I do try to take it somewhat seriously but if I ever find myself in a situation like that and talking like that I will probably log off for good lol

    I don’t have a hexbear account and never visit the place so I can’t add a meaningful comment about the situation but it seems like constructive talk was never an option