It’s a situation that I have been expecting for a while, but I wasn’t fully ready to accept it. Specifically it’s one of my LGBTQ friends who honestly believes in the democrats will protect them and their partner. I have tried to make the point that both parties are eroding any sort of civility towards all marginalized groups, but fear seems to drive them more than logical observations. They make the excuse that change doesn’t happen over night and that the left continues to grow and will have meaningful affects down the road. I fundamentally just don’t agree with that idea and vocalize it regularly. More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with. I try to tell them it’s kind of the whole point. We gotta start somewhere if we want to see a better, more representative system, but they are so hung up on the immediate future while simultaneously saying that my idealistic feelings are shortsighted and I cant expect change in the immediate future… The double-talk is wild, I know.

I am trying my hardest to stop from engaging at this point because on the most basic level we agree on a lot of stuff, but they are just way to wrapped up in the fear mongering of the democratic party. They know that the two party system is broken, they know that something drastic needs to change, but they also think that they are powerless to do anything except choose the lesser evil. It pains me because I am watching them do the same shit past generations have done, where they give up on their ideals for the sake of preserving the current status quo that they benefit from. I am legitimately watching them imply “fuck you, got mine” under the guise of civic duty and I hate it. I want nothing more than to be able to finally say “I told you so” without being a smug asshole about it and ruining our friendship.

Thanks for reading my rant. It’s probably a bit disjointed, but the frustration is boiling over and I needed to vent to the only group of people that seems to understand the hopelessness of being a disenfranchised leftist.

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    I am painted as unrealistic

    This shit gets me. I get called “too idealistic” and my response is what does that even mean? I think it’s too idealistic for the few to benefit from the work of the many. Seems unsustainable which fits right in to the definitions of idealistic. I think it’s idealistic for the Dems to expect a vote when they can’t give even token concessions. “Unrealistic” get the fuck out of here 70 years ago we’d be blowing ourselves up in a world war for some crusty declining nobles (and soon we might be told to do it again!) now we watch complete strangers appear to entertain us for 30 seconds and evaporate forever on tiktok wtf do we know about realistic.

    This hollow “community” of Democrats will happily cannibalize anyone without a second thought. The least I expect from my lib friends is to vote third party or shut up. Capitalism is a disease. Thanks for ranting so I could rant too

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      Whenever any of them tell me to “grow up” I can’t help but think of the Dead Kennedys line: “I’d rather stay a child and keep my self-respect if being an adult means being like you.”

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      Whenever some liberal glibly tells me “the world isn’t all sunshine and rainbows” I want to just scream IS-OUGHT at them until they shatter like glass.

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      I think it’s idealistic for the Dems to expect a vote when they can’t give even token concessions.

      DUDE! I run into a situation pretty often where I have to defend my criticisms of democrats against claims that my rhetoric is detrimental to progress. To which I have to tell them that its not my fucking responsibility to make politicians likable. I am not going to stop voicing my frustrations and concerns just because some uncommitted voter might hear me and agree… If Kamala wants more votes, that’s on her to prove the critics wrong, its not on me roll over and say nice things about her and the party. It is ridiculous for the Dems to expect a vote they don’t deserve just because they aren’t the orange guy.

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      70 years ago we’d be blowing ourselves up in a world war for some crusty declining nobles (and soon we might be told to do it again!)

      hate to break it to you but 70 years ago was 1954.

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        Hate to break it to you but there are already Many many deaths. Caused by the current administration even! Yet we must pragmatically and realistically accept them because of reasons.

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        Yes, there are a lot of 3rd party candidates you could vote for, you could also put real pressure on the political candidates that are asking for your vote, you can do plenty of things within the framework of the system and exercise your political voice. Voting for top-cop with no qualifiers isn’t going to get you what you want sweetie. maybe-later-kiddo

      • “I accept genocide, climate apocalypse and mass death became I am a sensible grown up. Sitting on my ass doing jack shit and calling it incremental change is going great. Why no, I haven’t felt the noose slowly tightening around my own neck yet, that only happens to other people”

        so-true

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        I understand we’re not going to get communism anytime soon, but using those labels “unrealistic” or “idealistic” are worse than thought terminating. In reality it’s far more unrealistic to think we can keep doing what we’re doing. It’s idealistic to think the status quo of destroying the planet and exploitation can go indefinitely. As always it’s projection

        If they were to say there’s way too many mini Hitler’s in Ford f5000s driving around to do a communism than YEA maybe we can share some thoughts.