I keep hearing that this is frowned upon, but I cannot help it. After I share, I circle back and explain how and why I connected the two stories to try to recenter the other person. Is this annoying? How do you want ND people to respond in that case?

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    Edit: not neurotypical, but replying anyway I guess :P

    Oops, I did this exact thing with this comment. Then I quickly edited it to add a spoiler warning that I’m just going off about my own shit. Thankfully Tommasi didn’t take it badly but it has happened to me before. Although when I do talk to other autistic people irl, I notice they do it too, so I just view it as a way that the person I’m talking to is relating their own experience to something I said and letting me know they understand what I’m saying by giving an example from their own life.

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      Yeah, that’s how I’ve always viewed it even before considering I had an Autism or ADHD diagnosis, it’s just very difficult for me to see it as anything but. I hate that it comes off that way and it’s soooo hard for me to just shut the fuck up and not say anything lol. Like just saying “I’m sorry”, “that sucks”, “that must have been hard” makes me feel like I’m therapizing that person, and it just feels so impersonal!