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      They neglected to tell them that the “horrible diseases” are only a danger if you sleep around with different people.

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        You or your partner. Sadly it’s way too common to catch it even when having one partner and being faithful.

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      Love the implication that sex ed would’ve been any better in the US. Hell it would be worse if it was one of those abstinence only courses I had to go through.

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        We literally had no sex ed other than pointing at a model. Nothing about how to do it or do it safely. Nothing about how to recognize if you’re being forced to and don’t realize it. Just pure memorization of the inner parts that people forgot about instantly. We had to watch a baby be born in a video but that was literally it.

        This was last year. By the best bio teacher in the school.

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        I didn’t have sex ed. The teacher had the kids vote on what they wanted. Sex ed or kickball. They all had shocked Pikachu faces when 4 students (ranging from 13-15years old) ended up pregnant within a year.

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        BY JESSICA STOYA

        I’m a 30-year-old guy

        Might be creative writing.

        Edit: just realized this is an audience submitted article, but I don’t retract my point

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          This is a column where letters from readers are responded to by the author (and sometimes guest help). Ms. Stoya is the column’s author, and she writes responses to the letters that get sent in.

          Might still be creative writing, but not by Ms. Stoya.

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            Yeah, I realized my mistake a minute after commenting and edited to point out the misunderstanding. These user submitted articles have always seemed fake to me. Particularly those from John Baron

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              Huh. It even looks like you realized it before I commented, but my client didn’t show your edit!

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                Between the time required for different instances to push and pull the update, and the minute required to write it, there was definitely room for a misunderstanding to brew. Browser lemmy also only publishes changes to the page when you upvote/downvote something. (But voting can also clear any comments you’re writing on that page, so be careful)

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          There’s more to the story, I saw the full article somewhere else. Dude can’t finish without a condom now because of nerves. It seems pretty believable.

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            Read the article and I wish them well, if it isn’t a cheeky bit of chicanery. Poking holes in the condom would also work, in addition to the soul searching and ED medication they suggested

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        I’ve heard stories if having sex using a woman’s urethra and not understanding things. Ive also heard stories about Mormons who don’t know how sex works at all and not understanding how they weren’t having children even after they were hokding hands and stuff.

        Basically, this could be fake but I’ve heard much worse from more reliable sources.

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          Urethral penetration is a fetish and requires stretching. You can’t just push a penis inside of one. Not even by accident.

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          I was literally going to mention the urethra story. I am now very concerned that you mentioned “stories”, plural.

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        it used to be a priests job to tell a couple getting married about this.

        we take education for granted, especially when there’s misinformation around

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          Because getting sex ed from a man who isn’t supposed to know anything at all about a woman’s sexual preferences and responses is totally the way to ensure a long and happy and productive marriage.

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            Not the first time I’ve heard someone talk like sex ed is supposed to include a section on technique. Like your high school gym teacher is going to start talking about “first start with gentle caresses around the area to get her in the mood.” No, school sex ed is meant to be about the realities of human reproduction, how pregnancy works, how STDs work and how to control these things.

            Seems it’s supposed to be anyone’s job except a woman’s to teach a man what she likes.

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          Only because it was also a priest’s job to tell single people that thinking about sex before marriage was going to condemn them to an eternity in hell.

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      I don’t think any advice was warranted.

      Also I would love to know at what point the doctor figured out the issue.

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    I’m glad you posted this, I’ve been making the same mistake for 3 years.

    It’s hell getting an appointment at a fertility clinic to prove to my boyfriend I’m not shooting blanks.

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    This is dumb, but I actually don’t blame the couple THAT much. It’s probably a shitty sexual education coupled with the taboo of talking about it. I went to abstinence-only sex ed back in the day, and all we were told was “sex before marriage is evil,” and basically nothing else. If it wasn’t for my church’s (yeah, seriously!) really good sex-ed classes, I would have been dumb as bricks.

    The DARE officer at my school (anti-drug police officer supposed to scare you straight) was actually yelled at by my health teacher for saying “sharing needles can cause STIs, oh and also wear a condom.” A teacher shouted “Abstinence only, no condoms!” at a bunch of ninth-graders. Moron. Although I guess the kids in that class wouldn’t have had trouble getting pregnant.

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    As unbelievable as it sounds, I met a dude who believed you could get pregnant with anal. His reasoning “that’s why in porno they always come in the face/skin”.

    We were about 15, but still.

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    Which Doctor, though? Hopefully 11. While not my favorite overall (10 forever), he’d probably be the best one at pointing out idiocy in a kind but hilarious way. Him or 13.

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      the wife is still a virgin because they were having anal sex

      In what world does having sex make you still a virgin?

      Edit: okay what the fuck is this shit

      They reportedly informed the now retired doctor that they were finally expecting - by sending 100 eggs and a live hen as gifts to her former hospital.

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      According to China’s Guiyang Evening Post, Liu’s ‘experience’ led her to inspect the woman’s anus, which she claimed ‘could fit three fingers.’

      That poor woman!

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    How do you even know about condoms or where to stick it if you don’t even know what’s happening?

    I feel like this is more an issue of “survival of the fittest”, not a failing of any education.

    Let these morons die out already!