If you’re someone who frequently looks at your gender and then complains “my gender typically suffers from x malady” and it’s not something that’s being forced upon you by external factors (such needing your partner to confirm your personal medical decisions with your doctor concerning future procreation or needing your partner’s permission to file for divorce), then maybe you should consider not being a typical example of your gender.
I have suicidal ideations and intrusive thoughts because a little voice likes to pop in every so often and tell me that killing myself would be super cool. So I take medicine to quiet the voice and tattle on it to my friends and family whenever it speaks up so they can help me assess if the advice is helpful or not. Is it “manly” to tell people close to me “I’m having suicidal thoughts and I don’t know why”? Nope. But I’d rather be a weirdo than hurt my family.
Tradmen and tradwives are terrible examples of how to be a human human.
As a woman whose male friends have made the same choices as you I gotta say, I’ve always preferred spending an evening supporting a friend to spending it mourning him.
Being alive has been one of my most consistent activities in my life
ETA: I appreciate your input and realizing that most of my friends in my contacts are women is one of my favorite self-evident reasons to reject gender roles. Something about my maladjusted peers blaming onlookers and victims for their maladjustment makes them insufferable to me.
In other words: guys gotta fix their shit or at least quit blaming women; anything less than that shouldn’t be tolerated by anyone.
It is hilarious to me that you are paraphrasing a famous stoic philosophy, which is famously associated with masculinity, as a response to the ‘as expected’ higher suicide rate of gender role conforming men.
By that measure, we’re all supposed to be fuckin’ ecstatic over here in the US right now, then. 🥹
I mean, everything about the fetid amalgam of mud fuckery that’s festering to boil over… As a nation, the prevailing placating excuse (aka “flagrant lie”) seems to be: we simply did nazi that coming. 🤷🏼♂️
As is expected from the traditional gender role.
If you’re someone who frequently looks at your gender and then complains “my gender typically suffers from x malady” and it’s not something that’s being forced upon you by external factors (such needing your partner to confirm your personal medical decisions with your doctor concerning future procreation or needing your partner’s permission to file for divorce), then maybe you should consider not being a typical example of your gender.
I have suicidal ideations and intrusive thoughts because a little voice likes to pop in every so often and tell me that killing myself would be super cool. So I take medicine to quiet the voice and tattle on it to my friends and family whenever it speaks up so they can help me assess if the advice is helpful or not. Is it “manly” to tell people close to me “I’m having suicidal thoughts and I don’t know why”? Nope. But I’d rather be a weirdo than hurt my family.
Tradmen and tradwives are terrible examples of how to be a human human.
As a woman whose male friends have made the same choices as you I gotta say, I’ve always preferred spending an evening supporting a friend to spending it mourning him.
Being alive has been one of my most consistent activities in my life
ETA: I appreciate your input and realizing that most of my friends in my contacts are women is one of my favorite self-evident reasons to reject gender roles. Something about my maladjusted peers blaming onlookers and victims for their maladjustment makes them insufferable to me.
In other words: guys gotta fix their shit or at least quit blaming women; anything less than that shouldn’t be tolerated by anyone.
The key to happiness is not having expectations haha. (Oversimplification, of course)
It is hilarious to me that you are paraphrasing a famous stoic philosophy, which is famously associated with masculinity, as a response to the ‘as expected’ higher suicide rate of gender role conforming men.
By that measure, we’re all supposed to be fuckin’ ecstatic over here in the US right now, then. 🥹
I mean, everything about the fetid amalgam of mud fuckery that’s festering to boil over… As a nation, the prevailing placating excuse (aka “flagrant lie”) seems to be: we simply did nazi that coming. 🤷🏼♂️
External factors that have power over you can of course ruin the “plan” so to speak lol
Ah, yes, the ol’ “Best laid plans of mice” and all that?
I didn’t expect you to say that. Behold my giddiness