Hexbear’s new head of operations just dropped, and their way of dealing with the fallout of their last struggle session is to hand bans out like candy to their concerned and disillusioned users while throwing out “epic” quips like insecure teenagers along the way coupled with their communication (and seemingly contempt) towards their own userbase which isn’t helping their allegations at all and the revelations that were learned about Hexbear’s moderators and admins from their most recent struggle session.

The last few days have honestly shaken my faith in Hexbear and their team and I hope the mods and admins at Lemmygrad are monitoring the situation closely.

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    you just sound like you’re trying to mask transphobia

    You wouldn’t accuse me of being transphobic if I posted in that thread. Why do you have to assume that just because I don’t engage in your liberal performative rituals that I am against whatever that ritual is about? And then you also say “posting in those threads isn’t mandatory”. Yeah, if you don’t want to be considered a transphobe.

    IRL, I’ve both educated people on trans issues, pronouns and advocated for removing transphobic people from spaces. So that’s why the accusation feels like an insult rather than a judgment on me or my behaviour. Feel free to go through my entire post history on lemmygrad and find something that can be construed or interpreted as transphobic.

    so there is a reason she was trusted and well liked when she returned.

    I read her 1-2 recent posts on hexbear and she doesn’t sound like a good person to me, she sounds egoistic. I wasn’t there to see the hexbear cultural revolution and start of the golden age, I am not claiming to know everything. I gave my impressions on Hexbear in a thread on Hexbear. Or wait, was this one of those “I love Hexbear” ritual threads? Dammit! I’m terrible at reading social cues.

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      Which person are you talking about because I was referring only to the I Love My Trans Comrades posts that you seem to have some sort of issue with hence the accusation.

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        Which person are you talking about

        TC69

        I was referring only to the I Love My Trans Comrades posts that you seem to have some sort of issue with

        I don’t have a problem with that thread in particular, I have a problem with a “I love x” in general. As an autist my whole life I have been outside looking in. I see social rituals as exclusionary, because I could never pick up on the cues or know which “non mandatory” things are actually mandatory. So when I see an expression of a shared micro-culture online (like a forum) it makes me weary because from my experience 1) people who develop a “shared culture” often expect you to not have any other cultures, 2) group goes through purges and “purifications”. Can you take a wild guess who’d be one of the first ones to be purged?

        And why? Look, people have accused me of being transphobic because I don’t use the same language, same signifiers and symbols or ways of talking/thinking, and because I went against what is apparently established canon or whatever. Do you see now why I might be weary of joining any group where I think that some sort of wink-wink signaling to one another might be necessary?

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          I have a problem with a “I love x” in general

          That is your problem not ours or our comrades who feel validated by such posts.

          established canon or whatever.

          Wtf do you mean by this? What language do you not use and why don’t you simply adopt new words into your vocabulary? As an ML surely you have done so in the past. All this just comes off as excuses for bigotry. Hell every single one of us is always adapting our language as we learn new words and concepts this is a really weird and honestly sus argument.

          As an autist my whole life

          Also quite fuckin insulting to use being ND as a shield.

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            OK. And am I over on hexbear telling you all this and arguing that you should change things? No, I’m on lemmygrad in a thread discussing hexbear. Now all you hexbearians are here angry that someone has an opinion on hexbear. Or is the problem that the opinion is expressed on a website where you don’t have control? Instead people come here from hexbear to insult me and brigade me like the totally-not-cultists that they are.

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              I don’t give a fuck about whatever you think about hexbear I am calling you out for the fact you are using this drama to voice your transphobic concern trolling.

              Damn almost like this is the intended use case for federation…

              in a thread discussing hexbear