naom3 [she/her]

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Cake day: January 14th, 2021

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  • cw: autogynephilia dysphoria

    Autogynephia isn’t real. There’s no actual evidence that the attracted to men/not attracted to men dichotomy isn’t entirely arbitrary and the whole theory doesn’t even make sense in the first place. Julia Serano has a very thorough take down of it but you need to know that it has been widely discredited even by the medical establishment for a while now and that it isn’t just “stupid” it’s fake. It’s literally just the same old parhologization of women’s sexuality that’s been going on for centuries but applied to trans women and blanchard was only able to briefly gain recognition because of how marginalized we are.

    As for dysphoria, I’m sure people will tell you (correctly) that you don’t need to have dysphoria to be trans, but even ignoring that I don’t think dysphporia is a usefull way to think about being trans; dysphoria can manifest as many different things and can be hard to recognize, either because it’s something you haven’t considered, because it’s too subtle, or because, like a fish in water, it’s so omni present that you don’t even notice it. It’s very common for trans people to only realize that something was dysphoria after transitioning or to realize they had more dysphoria than they thought.

    Instead of thinking in terms of dysphoria, think about what you want. Do you want to be a girl? If so, you’re trans. That’s all there is to it.






  • Yeah people forget that you can just use testing as a normal rolling release lol. But even then I don’t really care if most of my system is on the latest version or not. Like I don’t care if some random library or service that was installed as a dependency is a couple of releases behind upstream or whatever I just care that it works and that it does whatever it is that it’s supposed to do, and debian is really good at that and you still get all the bug fixes and security updates on stable anyway. Plus, if I actually want the latest version of something I can just get it from testing anyway