Okay so.
I… have a friend…
who has difficulty ejaculating with a partner but never with masturbation. He thinks because the problem never arises with masturbation, it couldn’t be caused by medication. Is this logic sound? Or could his antidepressants be the reason he’s limp-dicked for real women?

I remember that book…

Haha, less of an option in this case. I think I’ve got the near-term sorted though so maybe I’ll be on c/comradeship later but for now, we’ll see

Thanks for the community rec!

Nothing to apologize for! I’ll look around a bit for what question I’m really asking and probably write up a top level comment!

I appreciate it! I’m wondering if there’s a Lemmy community where I could get the advice of internet strangers as to how best to not be an asshole… Do you know of such a community?

I had a pretty good day yesterday, a woman I’ve been quite enjoying getting to know started texting me again.

Hope you feel better soon!

I find an effective means to resolve my anxiety is to consider the worst possible outcome and resolve within myself if that is an outcome I can withstand.

“their trans ideology will corrupt the kids!”

I know this feel so hard… I don’t have any helpful advice, only commiseration, to offer

Hmm… I haven’t observed that pattern myself so I can’t speak from personal experience but… if you’ve got right-wing-douches complaining about your work that might be effective advertising to your target audience?

I have a question of my own that isn’t quite related but is in the same pond of water. I’m considering writing a story from the perspective of a post-op trans-masc person. I worry about a trans story coming from my mouth though, I’m a cis het white male American.

I have begun composing the story based on the following logic. Before I worry if I’m the right person to tell a story, I might as well write the story first and judge its merit once it exists. Plus, I could then take the story to trans people and ask them if this story feels honest/respectful.

My question is this I guess, does my logic make sense? Are there any points you would recommend I keep in mind as I work on this story?

I’m in your seat.

I understand that all these platitudes about how a person should behave are good things, so I try to do them. I try to be a good person in all these ways and try to not be an asshole is all those.

And here I am as an unhappy mid-thirties autistic fuck with unfilled needs. I don’t understand how to weigh my own needs against all these platitudes, if I need it but it’s bad to seek it in any of the ways available to me, then I won’t get it. Simple.

Whereas other people have some magical spectrum they measure things on that tell them when it’s okay to break any of the rules they believe in because “this was right for me”.

Edit: Excuse me, I’m really grumpy today

Next year I want to be prepared and actually do something. I haven’t done a costume for Halloween in so long…

I also require reeducation

Exactly what I was thinking

Ah jesus, you got me…

Heh, also me too, though the autism is unrelated to the brain injury

“…embody the moral fabric that is America…”

the fuck did you say?

Hey! Me too! Was your prosopagnosia home grown or was your brain also hit by a truck?

What does stripper anthem rapper mean? I was born under a rock, I’m sorry

I know it involves a test of testosterone levels. I don’t know the limits of those tests, how much testosterone means a person isn’t a woman anymore.