it’s the idea that, if you see a presumably cis person acting in a non-cis way (ex: a presumed straight man longing for a lesbian relationship), you should NOT tell them that they may be trans and instead let them figure it out. at most, nudge them in the right direction.
as you can see, it’s a controversial idea in the trans community.
Ok so my brain is having a really difficult time processing that.
I understand the “you should not tell them that. They should figure it out on their own at most nudge them in the right direction.”
What i don’t understand is the “cis person behaving in non-cis ways.”
Like I was born male, feel male, look male. I’m very much attracted to women.
But I also hate sports,typical masculine activities, and in general hate hanging out with other men. As a result, my social interactions seems to mirror what would be seen more between women than men. But I’m certainly not a woman. No part of me feels like a woman. No part of me looks like a woman. I don’t fantasize about being a woman.
This is a foreign concept to me.
Also why call it “egg” prime directive? Seems a little deragotory for someone who isn’t out yet.
yea, your judgement of “is this person showing sings that they might be trans?” is subjective and can be wrong, that’s one of the reasons why people argue for the egg prime directive
and the reason it’s called “egg” is just because that’s slang for a trans person who is unaware/in denial that they are trans
Egg prime directive?
it’s the idea that, if you see a presumably cis person acting in a non-cis way (ex: a presumed straight man longing for a lesbian relationship), you should NOT tell them that they may be trans and instead let them figure it out. at most, nudge them in the right direction.
as you can see, it’s a controversial idea in the trans community.
What I have heard is, don’t insist that a cis-identifying person is trans. Especially don’t butt in, say, over the internet when you don’t know them.
If someone says “I wish I was a lesbian” it would be ok to say “That’s an option, you know 😉” but not ok to say “You’re a trans woman in denial”
yea i agree, suggesting that someone think about being trans is cool, assigning an identity to them isn’t
Ok so my brain is having a really difficult time processing that.
I understand the “you should not tell them that. They should figure it out on their own at most nudge them in the right direction.”
What i don’t understand is the “cis person behaving in non-cis ways.”
Like I was born male, feel male, look male. I’m very much attracted to women.
But I also hate sports,typical masculine activities, and in general hate hanging out with other men. As a result, my social interactions seems to mirror what would be seen more between women than men. But I’m certainly not a woman. No part of me feels like a woman. No part of me looks like a woman. I don’t fantasize about being a woman.
This is a foreign concept to me.
Also why call it “egg” prime directive? Seems a little deragotory for someone who isn’t out yet.
yea, your judgement of “is this person showing sings that they might be trans?” is subjective and can be wrong, that’s one of the reasons why people argue for the egg prime directive
and the reason it’s called “egg” is just because that’s slang for a trans person who is unaware/in denial that they are trans