I still don’t get why people have such an issue calling people what they want to be called.
You don’t balk at a guy or a girl named Robin, or Alex, or any of a hundred different androgynous names…
But you take issue with “he”, “she”, and “them”?
Why?
My only problem, and to be clear this is entirely my problem, nobody else’s, is that I’m so dumb, I frequently forget and call someone he/she when they prefer they/them. I fuck it up sometimes. I try, but decades of societal norms are getting in the way of me getting it right sometimes.
To every person who identifies as they/them please forgive me because I’m going to screw it up. Just correct me when I say it and hopefully in time my brain will stop making this mistake.
I still don’t get why people have such an issue calling people what they want to be called.
Why?
Normally I’m the type to wax philosophical for a few paragraphs about what the heck may be going on in their heads, but honestly I think it’s assholes being proud to be assholes. Punching down just feels so good. That and people who are suffering enough that they don’t care about others, but don’t realize they need to work on their mental health. Or they’ve been conditioned to see doing that as a character flaw or weakness. And of course the snowball effect of those people raising the next generation of assholes, building up some inertia behind the generational trauma.
Because underlying it all, regardless of which impactful arguments they think they are making or refuting, they just don’t want to be nice to people that are different.
Fair enough. I honestly just think they can’t see the forest because of all the trees in the way.
They’ll cry foul on someone insisting on being called by they/them pronouns, arguing that it’s an incorrect usage of they/them, or whatever the argument of the week is, then immediately use they/them pronouns for an individual in a different context without batting an eye, or even realizing what they’ve done.
By being offended I don’t start calling them by their pronouns right away my brain immediately goes into defense mode and refuses to acknowledge whatever the fuck they identify as.
Fairly certain most don’t get offended at genuine mistakes. It’s doubling down that usually upsets people, and if you’re the type to immediately go “well fuck you”, I suspect that may be the case with you.
I still don’t get why people have such an issue calling people what they want to be called.
You don’t balk at a guy or a girl named Robin, or Alex, or any of a hundred different androgynous names…
But you take issue with “he”, “she”, and “them”?
Why?
My only problem, and to be clear this is entirely my problem, nobody else’s, is that I’m so dumb, I frequently forget and call someone he/she when they prefer they/them. I fuck it up sometimes. I try, but decades of societal norms are getting in the way of me getting it right sometimes.
To every person who identifies as they/them please forgive me because I’m going to screw it up. Just correct me when I say it and hopefully in time my brain will stop making this mistake.
Because a bunch of bad faith actors have been carefully building an outrage-generating cash machine on the idea of ‘culture wars’ for decades.
Culture war, race war, nationalism wars…
As long as it’s not a class war, they’re okay with it.
Normally I’m the type to wax philosophical for a few paragraphs about what the heck may be going on in their heads, but honestly I think it’s assholes being proud to be assholes. Punching down just feels so good. That and people who are suffering enough that they don’t care about others, but don’t realize they need to work on their mental health. Or they’ve been conditioned to see doing that as a character flaw or weakness. And of course the snowball effect of those people raising the next generation of assholes, building up some inertia behind the generational trauma.
Because underlying it all, regardless of which impactful arguments they think they are making or refuting, they just don’t want to be nice to people that are different.
Fair enough. I honestly just think they can’t see the forest because of all the trees in the way.
They’ll cry foul on someone insisting on being called by they/them pronouns, arguing that it’s an incorrect usage of they/them, or whatever the argument of the week is, then immediately use they/them pronouns for an individual in a different context without batting an eye, or even realizing what they’ve done.
Ignorance and hypocrisy.
By being offended I don’t start calling them by their pronouns right away my brain immediately goes into defense mode and refuses to acknowledge whatever the fuck they identify as.
Fairly certain most don’t get offended at genuine mistakes. It’s doubling down that usually upsets people, and if you’re the type to immediately go “well fuck you”, I suspect that may be the case with you.
Thank you. I’m elated to hear that most don’t get offended at genuine mistakes.
That’s all I really needed.