Filmmaker Jeff Baena – best known for directing films like “Life After Beth” and “The Little Hours,” and the husband of Aubrey Plaza, has died … TMZ has learned.

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      Yeah, this is what people say instead of being empathetic.

      It’s not incorrect, it’s just an inconsiderate thing to say; like telling a person “getting upset doesn’t help” when their house is on fire.

      Either help, support, or leave them alone, otherwise you’re actively choosing to be an asshole and literally nothing more.

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        Yeah, this is what people say instead of being empathetic.

        No, this the phrase I tell myself when I’m having a hard time and was hoping others would take comfort in it.

        Obviously though ive exposed myself as someone incapable of feeling for others though.

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      Gee thanks, I’ll be sure to tell my brain chemistry that it is just a temporary problem.

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          Sorry, youre right. Im sure your trite self-centered sayings will cure suicide forever.

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            Yeah thats clearly what I thought was going to happen when I commented it. I couldn’t possibly just be sharing the phrase that gives me personal comfort in the hopes of it would help others. What i was really doing was attacking all suicidal people because I live a perfect life and have never experienced sadness or despair at all.

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        Ken Baldwin, a survivor of a suicide attempt from the Golden Gate Bridge, reflected that upon jumping, he instantly realized that all the problems he thought were unfixable in his life were, in fact, solvable—except for having jumped

        But go off - I’m sure you and only you have a good idea of why people commit suicide, probably because you’ve considered it once yourself and now like to pretend like that gives you some unique insight that makes you feel special and important.

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          K. Don’t take my word for it. Maybe read a fucking book by an expert, instead of spouting anecdotes.

          Or just continue with your genius ‘get over it’ strategy.

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        Is it cold up there in your ivory tower of wisdom? Comment above you has good intentions. Why do you insist on insulting them? Try this one. Suicide is a dae facto act of extreme optimism. What else could compel someone to end their life of misery except the absolute conviction that the after life must be better in some way shape or form.

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          Lmao. What a completely ignorant view. Not everyone believes in an afterlife It’s mostly likely done to end their suffering. No matter the consequences.

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            These really are such simple minded people. I get the impression they’ve never questioned a single thing in their lives.

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              Yeah. It’s sad as fuck to see too. Just imagine how insane the rest of their takes are on things theyve never once processed original thought on. I wish more humans still had original thoughts. Half the shit we hear these days are some rich person’s musings through the lense of a poor idiot.

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                You’re both two smug assholes smelling one another’s farts and saying ‘exaaaactly, exaaaactly’

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                  It looks identical from this side you know. You just look like smug assholes who have never had truly deep inclinations in your life and actually believe in “thoughts and prayers” as remedies for real world problems.

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                    “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem” is common phrase in suicide prevention discourse, emphasizing the finality of suicide compared to the potential transience of problems.

                    You, however, have interpreted it as an attack on your personal lived experience and are now projecting a whole personality and backstory onto me.

                    Here is my actual backstory: I have incredibly low moments where i consider ending it all, and internally chanting “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem” to myself is one of my coping techniques. I posted that phrase in this thread because it is something that has given me strength and I was hoping others would also find strength in it.

                    I was not anticipating having to defend such an innocuous phrase. Why would I? Who could have foreseen JokeDiety would come in here, read my comment, and declare that I was a ‘smug assholes who have never had truly deep inclinations in your life and actually believe in “thoughts and prayers” as remedies for real world problems’.

                    WOW!

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            Afterlife is an all inclusive term, not limited to heaven, hell, purgatory, null state and reincarnation, but thanks for your judgement.

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            Nothing he said is predesposed to an afterlife, oblivion can work perfectly well as ‘something better on the other side’ if you believe life is bad.

            You’re so eager to call other people ignorant without really considering what they’re saying.

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              I considered what they said and deemed it ignorant. I wasn’t eager. I read their words and came to an obvious conclusion. They have only one thought of why suicide would be done because the other side of life is better.

              Stop and think now. That’s ignorant. Not me calling that out. People kill themselves for a myriad of reasons. Not simply because the other side must be better.

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      I’ve seen every cliche about suicide there is, probably a hundred times each. None of them are even slightly convincing in any way. Only people who haven’t suffered from real depression and suicidal thoughts believe these petty words have any power.

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        Ignorant statement, this is literally what i repeat to myself in my lowest moments.

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          I feel it, but it’s maybe not the best phrase to post without this context under a post about suicide

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            I shouldn’t have to post a short story underneath a platitude to prevent people from projecting their Aunt Karen onto me.

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          I’m glad it helps you, truly, but I think for most people, this is just belittling.