Broadly speaking for me, romantically, I prefer openly queer partners and I want my relationships to be openly and proudly queer. However, as I’m a middle aged, post op cis passing trans woman, the men who are interested in dating me generally don’t give me that. They tend to be cis guys who want to downplay the whole trans thing, or trans guys who are happy to downplay the whole queer thing. As it is though, the people I find that want to be openly and proudly queer with me tend to be other women, so they are who I connect with the most

However, I’m more attracted to physical masculinity. Body hair, stubble, T powered body odour etc. My primary sexual attraction is to someone with a body like that who enjoys owning a body like that

I used to call myself straight, and preferentially date men, looking for the “complete package”, and whilst I’m still open to that, that search isn’t my priority. What I really want is the depth of a loving emotionally rich queer relationship, and so that’s what I prioritise, and that’s what I have now :)

Strictly speaking, I’m a panromantic heterosexual, but I just call myself queer these days and leave it at that