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Explanation: Latin looks and sounds cool, but it is a Hell Language with infinite declensions and conjugations and other minor grammatical nuances. You want to learn someone’s pronouns in Latin? Best get a paper and pad, it’ll take a while. Pronouns aren’t as important in Latin, though, as it’s a pro-drop language. Context usually fills in for pronouns.
Also, mandatory statement that ‘they/them’ is a perfectly good singular gender-neutral pronoun and I will die on this hill.
“Singular They” has been in use since at least Early Modern English.
"Roses are red
Violets are blue
Singular ‘they’ predates
Singular ‘you’"
I want this on a sticker lol
Right? I feel like I’m not taking my anti-crazy pills every time I hear people get mad about not using he/she. It’s just so easy to use “they” and it makes perfect sense. And we should just use it permanently for everyone.
My main problem with it is the namespace ambiguity, especially with respect to plurality. For simple statements it’s fine, if you’re saying something about one person it’s going to be clear they are the one you refer to. If you’re talking about their relationship to a group though, unlike a singular pronoun it is no longer explicit that you refer to them but not them, for instance. You compensate for this by making sure your meaning is clear in other ways and it can be made to work, but the fact you have to put in extra effort to make up for “they”'s relative lack of structural utility is a serious problem with the word.
I still use it for lack of a better way to avoid implying knowledge/relevance of gender, but it would be nice if some overtly singular gender neutral pronoun like xe would catch on.
Yeah as an example a simple sentence like “My daughter and her boyfriend went to a concert but she got ill so they had to come home”
Can’t change to “My daughter and her boyfriend went to a concert but they got ill so they had to come home”
It loses its meaning.
My daughter and her boyfriend went to a concert but my daughter got ill so they had to come home" is extra “work”
It’s not perfect
But you literally just demonstrated how dealing with ambiguous pronouns is a non-issue? You’d get the exact same ambiguity with “a mother and daughter went to a concert but [she] got ill”.
But you would never say that, unless you actually wanted to confuse people!
In your example, you’d have to say the mother or the daughter, but not in my example
How does your example read if you change ‘she’ for ‘they’?
I think you’ve missed the point. You don’t say it that way because it’s ambiguous and it’s natural to avoid the ambiguity. The same applies to your example; you’re speaking in an intentionally awkward way and you already know how you’d say it normally.
We might end up doing that after some time. It’s similar to why we use “you” instead of “thee/thy/thou.”
Speak for thineself!
Since I don’t know you, and I assume you don’t know me, the way you have pointed your language at me demands that I challenge you to a duel.
“Thee/thy/thou” was the familiar or informal, while “you” was formal. You would use the informal with someone who was close to you, a friend or a romantic interest. You would also use the informal as an insult to people you didn’t know well, as a kind of “I’m better than you, so I can use this intimate form to refer to you” thing.
Ultimately, “you” became standard in all cases, because it avoided the possibility of unintended insult. In similar fashion, I think we’ll end up using “singular they” a lot more often, because of the rapidly increasing awareness about gender fluidity and wanting to avoid unintended insult, just like with “you.”
My only comment is that at least you only have to learn it once (or, well, thrice), not for any given conversation.
He, she, or they works well enough for most circumstances. Do we really need to broaden it beyond that?
Once pronouns become unique and personalised instead of generic, you lose the advantages of having them in the first place, and may as well refer to everyone by name every time. It’d be less confusing, especially if you’re re-using existing words as pronouns.
He, she, or they works well enough for most circumstances. Do we really need to broaden it beyond that?
I would say probably not. I expect (and hope, I suppose) that things will sort themselves out more or less that way. We live in a time of great reconsideration of gender norms, and it’s not absurd to see experimentation in such a period. I use neopronouns (nounself style excluded) as a courtesy, because I understand it brings comfort to many who use them and it’s not much trouble simply to do so, but they/them is what I hope we all eventually settle on as standard for NB gender identities.
enbies are not gender neutral and have their gender as well! hence neopronouns.
They/them is not used exclusively to refer to neuter things, so enbies not being gender neutral is irrelevant here. ‘They’ is a useful and pre-existing catch-all.
they/them is what I hope we all eventually settle on as standard for NB gender identities.
This part is the one I’m referring to. I’m not opposed to they/them — it’s good, but I don’t think it’s fair to reduce enbies to just “they/them”.
… why?
Is that any more absurd than “reducing males to he/him” or “reducing females to she/her”?
It’s language, not a campaign medal. You don’t need a separate example for every instance.
The whole point of pronouns, I would argue, is to not need a separate set for every instance.
Otherwise you may as well just use Dan/Dan/Dan’s/Danself conjugated for each name.
Pronouns:
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Are (generally) shorter than names, because there’s less need for them to be unique and they’re used more frequently.
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Can be used even when you don’t know specifics about a person or object, or they don’t want to give out their name.
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Everyone knows how to conjugate them, so once you know someone is a ‘they’, you can readily extrapolate to them, their, theirs.
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Well exactly because they/them is a catch-all and there aren’t just he/hims and she/hers
let enbies express themselves too!
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Latin is like German in this regard, minus the exceptions, which make up around half the cases in German.
I kinda love the conjugation and declensions in Latin, it’s a language where once you learn the rules you know exactly how that word fits. You can almost throw sentence structure out the window. I find that neat, it must’ve been a fun language for poets.
Why does he also give the plural forms of his pronouns?
Mirrors
I have to study it as part of high school. 'Nuff said…
Man this definitely brought back high school latin memories.
Alright so I’ve always thought the past was always shitty, but this. God damn am I proud of this. Some social things that were much more lax back then should have stayed that way.
That’s not what that is.
It’s just that Latin had more complicated grammar regarding pronouns.
They still only had 3 grammatical (and societal) genders: he, she and it.
Anytime I see someone mention pronouns, my brain instantly lessens the value of anything else they say.
Anyoe focused on that has a compromised thought process. It’s one of those things that seems universally true.
You’re conflating ‘mentioning’ and ‘focused on’ here. Those cannot be simultaneously true. In my experience, whenever someone holds an unjustified negative opinion about discussion of pronouns, they’re just seething with hate inside. It’s one of those things that seems universally true, y’know? If you’re transphobic just say it with your whole chest. Go ahead.
You mentioned pronouns, so I’ll treat you according to your own ruleset
Anytime I see someone denigrating use of pronouns, I assume they have shit for brains.
Sounds like a safe assumption tbqh
You don’t like when people tell you what to call them? What?
You can ask, but not tell.
If somebody calls you how you want to be called then that’s a form of respect. But forcing other people to respect you just gets you disrespected.
Nah man, anyone who refuses to respect me deserves me spitting in their face. If someone asks that you use pronouns of a certain kind for them, generally you should make an effort to do so, and generally not doing so is a shitty thing to do. If I introduce myself as “John” and someone insists on calling me “James”, I am entirely in the right to insist on “John”, and to become aggravated if they refuse. Likewise with pronouns.
Signed, Cis guy with he/him pronouns
Ain’t hard to show a little respect when someone asks it of you; and if you refuse, they are in the right to demand it as a precondition for respectful interaction.
What I mean is that if somebody calls you James, you should walk away instead of crying and being mad about it like a narcissist that doesn’t get what they want. It’s the latter which many people are exhibiting nowadays.
