Same. I generally kept gender stuff to myself starting at a young age except expressing some confusion about how someone could care so much about gender to transition (but its not realistic to expect people to tell me I’m expressing similar ideas as agender people when agender people weren’t really a group people knew about), so I wouldn’t expect there to be much chance for someone to say something much earlier… but still wish someone would have said something earlier.

i was eggy as all shit and my friends all knew. i was vocally complaining about how much i hated being cis for years, and i would have really liked someone to give me a nudge and say “girl, for fuck’s sake, you don’t have to be cis, you can change your gender into something you actually like”