people have been demonizing it for most of the AD years i think but it’s quite pleasant really. are there any proven negative effects?

  • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
    433·
    6 months ago

    The current 3rd/4th wave feminism finds male sexual pleasure very abhorrent. If you can find anything in the mainstream discourse coming from a feminist that says otherwise please share.

    Feminists can’t even agree to be against circumcision which is clearly genital mutilation.

    • BoneALisa@lemm.eeEnglish
      301·
      6 months ago

      Thats just not true my dude, there is nothing about feminist thought that says that male pleasure is abhorrent. To think so shows a lack of understanding of feminism…

      • MrPoopbutt@lemmy.world
        92·
        6 months ago

        Feminism suffers from being very broad. There are a lot of conflict viewpoints living under the umbrella of feminism and people saying that their interpretation is the correct one. And there ate a bunch of waves of feminism too, each one a bit different.

        So there are absolutely feminists who are anti male. They may be a loud fringe minority, but they’re there.

        • BoneALisa@lemm.eeEnglish
          4·
          6 months ago

          I won’t disagree that there are definitely anti-men feminists, but there have also been anti-bi feminists, and currently there are anti-trans feminists. But none of them are worth discussing when talking about feminism as a whole because they really don’t apply. Those are ideologies that should be tackled independently, and should not be considered representative of the movement in general.

        • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
          418·
          6 months ago

          But I’m talking about mainstream feminism in the public discourse right now. Think the “Barbie” movie. Male sexuality is very clearly depicted a inherently dangerous which is core mainstream feminist belief.

          • Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works
            231·
            6 months ago

            Did you actually watch the movie or just regurgitating a viewpoint someone else claimed the movie was about.

            • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
              15·
              6 months ago

              Not to mention Ken’s attraction to Barbie nearly destroys Barbie land and is revealed to based on selfish social climbing and his broken psychology.

            • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
              15·
              6 months ago

              Barbie is immediately sexually harassed several times upon first interacting with human men.

              Also see “Wonder Woman '84” for more examples which was directed by a feminists with explicitly feminists ideology.

      • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
        318·
        6 months ago

        Okay, post some mainstream feminist discourse that says otherwise. Highly influential feminists like Dworkin go as far as saying that any sexual intercourse with men is sexual assault.

        • sushibowl@feddit.nl
          5·
          6 months ago

          First, Dworkin has never said that and did not think that.

          Second, she died almost twenty years ago my dude. Intercourse was published in '87 during the second wave of feminism. Why are you misquoting her as an example of current mainstream discourse? And even if we’re going to be talking about feminist views of the 80’s, you’re conveniently ignoring sex-positive feminism. The sex wars were like, the defining feminist debate of that era.

          • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
            14·
            6 months ago

            She did in fact say that and your link doesn’t refute that. And sex positive feminism is not sex positive for men. As I’ve said many times before I’m talking about mainstream feminist discourse. Feminist always use this tactic of digging up some progressive strain of feminism knowing full well it’s not influential.

            Dworkin may have died awhile ago but her work is still regularly cites and studies by mainstream feminism and her influence can be seen in movies like the Barbie movie.

            • sushibowl@feddit.nl
              2·
              6 months ago

              She did in fact say that and your link doesn’t refute that.

              Come now. She very clearly denies saying it in the interview I linked to:

              Several reviewers accused you of saying that all intercourse was rape. I haven’t found a hint of that anywhere in the book. Is that what you are saying?

              Andrea Dworkin: No, I wasn’t saying that and I didn’t say that, then or ever.

              If you want to claim she’s lying about her own statements, find me a direct quote of her saying it.

              • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
                11·
                6 months ago

                She did say it’s degrading and a form of contempt inflicted by men on women. In the context of the books it’s not at all unreasonable to interpret it as rape.

                Regardless it DOES posit male sexuality and violence and degragation of women when it is expressesed.

                Regardless that’s her influence even if unintentional and it’s all over media and culture.

            • aesthelete@lemmy.world
              2·
              6 months ago

              Andrea Dworkin: No, I wasn’t saying that and I didn’t say that, then or ever. There is a long section in Right-Wing Women on intercourse in marriage. My point was that as long as the law allows statutory exemption for a husband from rape charges, no married woman has legal protection from rape. I also argued, based on a reading of our laws, that marriage mandated intercourse—it was compulsory, part of the marriage contract. Under the circumstances, I said, it was impossible to view sexual intercourse in marriage as the free act of a free woman. I said that when we look at sexual liberation and the law, we need to look not only at which sexual acts are forbidden, but which are compelled.

              The whole issue of intercourse as this culture’s penultimate expression of male dominance became more and more interesting to me. In Intercourse I decided to approach the subject as a social practice, material reality. This may be my history, but I think the social explanation of the “all sex is rape” slander is different and probably simple. Most men and a good number of women experience sexual pleasure in inequality. Since the paradigm for sex has been one of conquest, possession, and violation, I think many men believe they need an unfair advantage, which at its extreme would be called rape. I don’t think they need it. I think both intercourse and sexual pleasure can and will survive equality.

              It’s important to say, too, that the pornographers, especially Playboy, have published the “all sex is rape” slander repeatedly over the years, and it’s been taken up by others like Time who, when challenged, cannot cite a source in my work.

              http://www.nostatusquo.com/ACLU/dworkin/MoorcockInterview.html

              • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
                11·
                6 months ago

                All she’s saying is that she meant maritial sex is a form of violence because maritial rape was legal, which wasn’t even true.

                It’s a distinction without a difference.

                • aesthelete@lemmy.world
                  2·
                  6 months ago

                  All she’s saying is that she meant maritial sex is a form of violence because maritial rape was legal, which wasn’t even true.

                  She’s saying women cannot legally consent to sex in marriage when marital rape is legal. She wasn’t saying that all sex was violent, she was saying it was all not the “free act of a free woman” because wives were property of their husbands and could be legally raped even if they denied sexual consent.

                  Also, marital rape was fully legal in the entirety of the US until the 1970s: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape_in_the_United_States

                  You seem to have a pretty loose grasp on the issues here. I get that you didn’t like the Barbie movie, but that all that means is that you didn’t like the Barbie movie.

                  • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
                    1·
                    6 months ago

                    She was and she says it in both that and other wrirings and publically.

                    “Male sexuality, drunk on its intrinsic contempt for all life, but especially for women’s lives, can run wild.”

                    “Hatred of women is a source of sexual pleasure for men in its own right.”

                    She argued that penetration was a form of “occupation”.

                    “intercourse remains a means or the means of physiologically making a woman inferior”

                    She labeled women that had sexual with men “collaborators”.

                    But defenders like you will split hairs to make it seem like her demonization of male sexuality is just made up by her critics.

        • Bertuccio@lemmy.world
          5·
          6 months ago

          “She is often said to argue that “all heterosexual sex is rape”, based on the line from the book that says, “Violation is a synonym for intercourse.” However, Dworkin has denied this interpretation, stating, “What I think is that sex must not put women in a subordinate position. It must be reciprocal and not an act of aggression from a man looking only to satisfy himself. That’s my point.”[1]”

          Second paragraph on wikipedia…

          • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
            14·
            6 months ago

            But she posits that patriarchy is all encompassing and subordinates all women. Even the feminist that wrote the forward said that’s what she meant.

            Numerous feminists have said they interpreted that way. It’s hard to take her denial seriously given the context of her book and the rest of her writings.

            • Bertuccio@lemmy.world
              1·
              6 months ago

              “She didn’t actually say what she said in the book. Or what she said in multiple interviews. She really said whatever dumb strawman I want to make up.”

        • BoneALisa@lemm.eeEnglish
          2·
          6 months ago

          This is exactly my point. This is a harsh misunderstanding at what she was getting at…

          She is saying that the reality of sex for the vast majority of history has been about men dominating women, not interested in satisfying the women involved, but someone already covered that point.

      • SeattleRain@lemmy.worldEnglish
        26·
        6 months ago

        I don’t find downplaying the gentital mutation of innocent babies funny. I’m not sure why feminists do.

        • Bertuccio@lemmy.world
          2·
          6 months ago

          Downplaying the nonsense that you tried to make more palatable by putting it next to actual issues and hoping you could use it to misdirect when you got called out, while also pointing out your completely untrue claims betray that you got justly called out for some IRL bad behavior and want to blame feminists for creating a social norm where that behavior is no longer tolerated.