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  • I have very strong memories of fast food and going out with my family to restaurants like Applebees and Chilis. Family meals that I remember sitting together and ordering, the crayons at the table, bits and pieces come back.

    As an adult, never try to relive those memories. The people are what you’re remembering, not the food or the atmosphere, and even then if you are the food and atmosphere are just gone. Leave the memories in the past, make new ones now. At better places.


  • Nobody ever fell in love without being a little brave

    Just gotta work up to ask. For me, I started by asking her to come to a group outing with me. No, not the sleezy tactic of “Totally going to be a group” then it’s just me, but actually a group outing. My friends knew I liked her and they tried to sit so we’d be next to each other. Couple of weeks I worked up the courage to finally ask her to see a movie with me, and she said yes.

    At the end of the day, it’s cliche but the worst that would happen is “No.” If it’s a no, it sucks, but accept it, and move on. It’s done, it’s over. No maybes, no what ifs, just, hey she’s not into you, and rejection is never fun, but it happens to the best of us. If she says yes, then great!

    Just remember, number 1 tippy top best advice I can give - relationships and love are not like the movies. They just aren’t. She’s a real person, just like you. She has hobbies, likes, dislikes, and she may be a completely different person than who you have in your head. Don’t just ask out a crush you barely know. Get to know her, the real her, not the one you built up in your head. She’s not going to be your Robin Scherbatsky, or your Leia, Arwen, or <<any woman ever from any romcom>>, she’s not going to be the imaginary girl you imagined in your head and what you are going to do, she’s a real human. I like to ground anyone who has a crush and pull them back down to earth. Crushes are fun, but we romanticize the person into someone they’re not. Make sure you like them, not who you think they are.

    If you don’t feel ready to ask her out, like if you don’t know her very well, then trust that feeling, and do what I did, try to find some mutual ground where you can get to know each other a bit more. Group settings are great for this, see how well you get along together. When you’re ready, it’ll still be terrifying, but like the quote says, no one ever fell in love without being a little brave.

    Note: I realized I wrote this from my point of view. Swap out the pronouns if they don’t apply.












  • I lost my love of reading thanks to idiotic school mandates. I read so many books in jr high, in high school we had a homeroom at the end of the day that you weren’t allowed to do homework in, we were literally forced to read for 30 minutes. School admins thought this would ignite love for reading, instead it killed all of my joy for it. Nothing like sitting next to a sunny window thinking about how in just 23 more minutes you can go outside when you’re being forced to read right there.

    Then detention too, if you got detention you weren’t allowed to do homework - because reasons I suppose. (Doing poorly in school? Getting detention? Well good luck, you can’t do homework here sucker!) So of course, more forced reading time. How did no one think that we would associate reading == punishment?

    So now I find it incredibly difficult to read, and I hate it. All I think about is all of the other things I could be doing.




  • Because that’s not how the corporate world works. You want to freak out and yell at them? Go ahead. Maybe they don’t eat someone else’s food for a week. Meanwhile you’ll be hunting for a new job. You threaten another employee? You’ll be lucky to be employed at the end of the day.

    Life is a series of tradeoffs. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Tim may steal food, but that doesn’t mean it’s throwing off the status quo. You yell at Tim, you’re upsetting the status quo. So go ahead, and have fun with your pink slip. Hope it was worth it.

    Or you can keep your lunch at your desk.


  • These are the sort of things that jr developers love to make jokes about that get tiring so quickly. Same thing as someone naming their new project something like “Project Mordor” or something. Fun for about ten seconds, annoying for the next ten years.

    Instead of helping a fan who needed to know, you got a 10 second joke out, and now whenever someone googled it that will pop up making it frustrating.

    A senior engineer would say:

    In the balls. (But for real it’s Documents/Saves/MyGame.sav)