Wish I could claim credit, but in the immortal words of Shaggy, “It wasn’t me.”
This is just something my mom drilled into us when I was younger, and I still do it to this day
Wish I could claim credit, but in the immortal words of Shaggy, “It wasn’t me.”
This is just something my mom drilled into us when I was younger, and I still do it to this day
Others have already said to let go about everything being perfect, because there will be things outside of your control that you cannot account for, so I won’t harp on about that.
Instead, I recommend a little pre-trip prep at home to make the end of your trip a dream as well. Take some time to clean the house/apartment, do the dishes and laundry, make the bed.
There is nothing like coming home after a long trip, but coming home to a mess or chores after a (hopefully) amazing time is a terrible way to cap off your vacation, so do yourselves a favor and spend a couple hours on making home perfect before you leave.
(Obligatory: I’m not a psychologist/psychiatrist, but I’ve been in your husband’s shoes, and all of the men in my family are living with depression)
First, thank you so much for even sticking by your husband and reaching out to find ways you can help. It is all too common that people get frustrated when their significant other is trapped by depression and push them away or don’t seek to understand. Your husband is a lucky man.
On the flip side, supporting someone in difficult times like this can be taxing. Don’t feel guilty for seeking your own support, such as your own therapy sessions with a psychologist. Supporting someone else becomes so much easier when you also have a system behind you as well, rather than going alone because they are the ones with depression. I did not do myself any favors by essentially doing what it sounds like you are doing, but for my ex-wife, being her safe space/anchor while she worked on her general anxiety and a lot of suppressed childhood trauma, but it took a huge toll on me as well, basically ignoring my needs because I was dedicating everything to her.
Some context on my opinions here: I was someone who was a “gifted kid” (advanced classes in school, extra curricular activities, science summer camps, etc) and lived almost 30 years without an ADHD diagnosis because it was a dirty word back when I was young. Today I’m living today the related depression as an adult when it’s hard to keep up with things “normal” people take for granted and a lot of social anxiety from a difficulty forming strong lasting relationships.
I’d like to offer some suggestions that may help, some of which have helped me, while others have helped my family but weren’t successful for me:
I wish you the best of luck, it’s not easy for anyone, but like I said, your husband is a lucky man to have someone so loving at his side.
$14/hour? Not likely, 20 states are still at the federal minimum of $7.25/hour, and only like 7 are at $14 or higher.
Lump that together with the massive stigma about hiring people who spent time in prison, the shit education and/or training most incarcerated people receive and they’ll be lucky to get two minimum wage jobs to barely squeak by.
The U.S. never abolished slavery, they just gave it a makeover and called it justice.
“Go for the eyes, Boo!”
Can we please start using this photo of him for every article?
I’m in a similar boat, Spanish degree from college, but learning Portuguese now, and I’ve found that kids programming like Sesasme Street (Rua Sésamo) is really great for getting some fundamentals. They tend to speak slower, avoid idioms and focus on foundational parts of the language. And the good thing is, you can find all 30ish episodes of Rua Sésamo on YouTube
Edit: Rua Sésamo is European Portuguese, if you want Brazil, then Vila Sésamo is what you’re looking for (or simply Sésamo)
Oh here’s a fun fact: You made out with your sister!
I think he can pull it off, he had a fairly neutral accent in LoTR and the Riddick movie, and he’s definitely got the cockiness
Maybe a retcon or multiverse thing like the recent game? Or flashbacks, who knows with games-based movies.
But I think you missed the most important part of that entire list where is said Karl Urban as Johnny Fucking Cage
As someone who biked year round while at college in Wisconsin, congrats on making it with minimal falling, it’s not easy.
Echoing what someone else said, sometimes you just need to hop off the bike and walk it for a little.
Very nice, love some Vulfpeck!
The Madison Square Garden concert (the full video, not the album edit) is one of my all time favorites. If you haven’t seen it, it’s on their YouTube channel.
This actually reminds me of an incident in high school.
One of the teachers was younger and pretty cool, and one day we were told there would be a substitute later that week, but the teacher wanted to help us mess with the sub, so instead of Literature class that day, we practiced humming at a super low volume to make the sub question their hearing, gracefully dropping pencils and books at opportune times, etc.
Well the day finally came, and sufficed to say we failed at being discreet and the sub got pretty pissed at us. The scheduled lesson was abandoned, and instead we were told to write a short essay about how we should behave in class and the lessons we should be focused on.
Well it was high school lit, so we were reading some books that had adult themes and things, and some of the kids wrote that we were learning how to identify prostitutes (some character had a different woman visit all the time) or how to murder or whatever.
The next week the teacher was back, and because of our shenanigans and the essay content, we heard that they basically had to fight to keep their job, and damn did we all feel like fucking idiots after that.
I still think about that teacher from time to time. I hope they’re doing ok.
Ah, that’s why, I’m just a boring casual on the public releases
Yea, I would talk to your IT dept, this is just lazy, when I was managing we at least set it to [usernames] phone
Wait really? How have I missed this? I’ll have to comb the settings when I sober up
I’m mean, would “Get to the choppa!” have been any better?
Goddammit, I just realized this says fewture request. That’s what I get for posting while drinking…
Follow up thought as I scrolled, once the ability to block an entire instance is released, it would be nice if the same thing happened if I blocked that instance (e.g. I have nothing against Germany, but I don’t speak German and having posts from the German instance is literally just spam on my feed)
This is spot on.
I like making leather goods for friends and family. As soon as I made my first few things, my parents and (now ex) wife starting making comments about making it my side hustle, selling at fairs/farmer markets, etc.
I took a few steps down that road, but the business side of figuring out costs, meeting deadlines, etc., absolutely killed my passion for my hobby and I basically quit doing it for almost two years.
I’ve only just gotten back into it over the past few months, making some things for my friends and “charging” them something like a homemade painting or a six-pack of good beer and letting them know their wallet/purse/whatever will be done when it’s done.
I’m happy, they’re happy, and my day job continues to be my source of income, while my hobby is my escape and still feels good.