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Mulla on muutama tämmönen tullu sähköpostissa ja naureskelin kun en enää asu Suomessa että siinähän maksan tullit väärään maahan.

They call it pop here in North-East of England as well.

I wasn’t a black out drunk, mainly cause it didn’t take much to make me drunk, but I couldn’t stop once I started either. First I hold out on drinking during the week, then I’d have drinks on the evening, then a drink before work then decided to quit before it got further out of hand.

I hope you find the motivation to quit cause honestly drinking is such a waste of time. I genuinely believe all you need is to believe you can.

I work in a care home. I also have that thought every single day.

Stimulate me but don’t over stimulate me, maybe?

That’s true, best to use it in oxy-powder/stain-remover form that’s been formulated for fabrics and so you can get one for whites and one for colours. Should work for pretty much all of these stains.

I’ve heard good things about thundershirts (weighted coats to make them feel cuddled) and happy hoodies (tube hat to cover their ears). My sister tried a thundershirt for her puppy that was afraid of thunder and it helped quite a bit.

I’ve gotten into a habit of “I’ll do it right now so I don’t have time to become anxious” and so I’ve gotten better about making calls now.

I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it’s getting back to normal.

Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don’t pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I’ll catch up on sleep and housework.

I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don’t do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I’ll go out when I’m on holiday.

No use crying over spilt (choccy) milk

I’ve got the same issue but with all black socks

Love a bit of blue cheese, pineapple and ham on my pizza (and not that uncommon in Finland), but I have actually had it with shrimp added and that was quite nice.

To be honest I’m not a native English speaker so your advice is probably more useful anyway. My husband is British and has studied plenty of languages, finding Swedish and Norwegian definitely the easiest to pick up. Romance languages have more complicated grammar but you’ll find a lot more TV and movies to watch to casually pick up a bit more of the language, which I find useful because I only speak English as well as I do from watching a lot of TV (first with subs) when I was younger.

Learning a new language. You learn a bit about how languages work, understand other cultures a bit better, usually learn new vocabulary for your native language, understand the relationship between different languages, learn the roots of loan words and generally helps your brain stay healthy, even by only studying the basics.

Why not both

I remember it being very negative in that most posts that you’d see just scrolling through it were complains along the lines of “ADHD is the worst” and “just been fired for the fifth time” and it wasn’t until my husband noted that he had heard it being a terrible sub that I realised the atmosphere was purposely that way. They discouraged self-diagnosis to the extend that seemed unhelpful, even though it could be argued that how can someone seek a diagnosis if they don’t first self-diagnose? And generally seemed to consider ADHD as a curse or a disability, regardless of whether and individual would feel that way. They were openly against neurodivergence as a term:

“We consider the neurodiversity paradigm to be harmful to people with ADHD, both directly in terms of its stated goals and indirectly via constant attempts to silence us for disagreeing with them.”