The way I have been thinking about this recently is Spending Time vs Wasting Time. Spending Time is self care while Wasting Time is not. Spending time is doing leisure activities or anything that bring me joy that is long lasting. Wasting Time is doing something just to be distracting for the moment but once its done I don’t feel really rested and relaxed. These Time Wasting activities give a little pleasure but I always feel a little bored during or afterwards. What is spending time and wasting time can change based on your values and what have been doing recently.

If we are using food as an example, spending time is a pot pie and wasting time is popcorn. Pot pies are healthy, filling and comforting when eating it and it lasts. Popcorn is satisfying while eating it but doesn’t last and isn’t that healthy. Nothing wrong with some popcorn but you can’t live off it along. Spending time on the internet for me is like Popcorn. I do it often but I can’t have it be all my leisure time or else I feel bored.

I really enjoyed Pleasure Activism to understand what is true lasting pleasure. It is not for everyone, since its a large number of short stories / essays with a specific viewpoint but its useful to think about.

Its good to get new anything in this area. Especially something community focused and locally owned.

Just remember that month suggestions online are for certain geographic areas. You might need to move them earlier or later. (The best rules I have seen is when nights are above 50 F in North America)

Classic DnD item.

They described him as a moderate in the article but I say we got a progressive agenda here in MN when we had our trifecta.

Frankly more people were excited about Tim Walz then Kamala Harris. Let’s get more MN politicians in there instead of people from the coasts. The focus on getting someone from the Midwest is the only good news I see. We need someone from Minnesota, Wisconsin or Michigan to lead the party from the inside. They might be fully progressive but understand how to organize and message to everyone. They can’t just float by on politics as usual

Seems like the classic business argument. Privative the wins but your government bails out all loses.

Seems greedy to try to force the government to take your land and property. Do I support something better there? Yes but this isn’t the way

I know. I hate it. I don’t know why

We need a better second person plural in English. Y’all works but its a big language gap

I know this isn’t 100% on topic but I recommend you want this TED Talk by Esther Perel about infidelity. It might give you some different perspective about cheating and how to deal with it. Take a watch and see what she has to say. She is highly regarded and a very helpful.

I do think you should go after having a conversation with your ex-wife and child about it. Talk with your child about what they hope they are getting out of it and set some expectations about you wanting to spend most of your time with them. Tell them you might be angry about the situation which has nothing to do with them. Do the same with your ex-wife and say you want to go but you might be angry at points. Say it out loud so everyone is aware before it happens.

You can’t fully disconnected from these people since you have a kid with them without hurting your child. Its going to be tough and rough but this might be a good crash course into your new relationship with your ex-wife and her new husbands. You don’t have to like them but be friendly enough in front of your kid.

Also free fancy trip. Count it has blood money for the infidelity if that helps you

This is the correct response since they all co-parent a kid together they will run into each other in the future. You don’t have to be friends with this person but you got to be friendly. Give it a chance but make sure you have time to process and boundaries about what you think you can handle. This isn’t for you but your kid. Be the bigger man

It is hilarious and sad that Joe Rogan wields so much power. But the point still stands that we need an economic policy to succeed. We need a Bernie Sanders like policy going forward.

Agreed. Run on change for the better. Higher minimum wages, universal health care, paid sick time, paid maternity / paternity leave. This will get votes because people want something better in their pocket books. Student loan forgiveness was a great policy to run on. If it wasn’t blocked in courts it would have given a huge boost to Biden.

I know lots of people are really down on this but it seems like people just want change. We all know the system isn’t working for most people right now and want something different.

Trump is different. Bad but different. If you have little hope make sense to break everything. If there’s a real progressive change candidate people will be excited. Change is what is needed

My wife and I are not going to her side of family’s Thanksgiving this year since they are full Trumpers. Not worth seeing them since we don’t like them that much anyhow and they will be insufferable this year. We are in our mid 30s.

The best thing about being in the Midwest is you have to fly to anywhere cool. The worst thing about being in the Midwest if you have to fly anywhere cool.

The first one is always hard. It does look complicated but with mail ballots should be doable. These are the kind of thing that take at least a few cycles to understand what is working and what is not.

Reducing numbers or ranking the list by order would be helpful. I don’t see any order in this list but that might be helpful

The federal government is going to be gutted and destroyed. It’s time to focus on local change. Nationwide isn’t going to work for a while but focus on your city, your state, your block and your house. Live your values everywhere. Focus your attention on what matters and can be controlled

I feel like this is a great reminder that you can only really change what you can control. Live your life with your values. Get a job that makes you feel worthwhile if you can. Spend time with friends in real life and online who live the same life as you.

Volunteer at local events and make where you live as best as you can. Focus on local politics and issues since you can control them more. Go out and make the world you want