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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • Oh! Absolutely!

    I living in Oklahoma right now, so harassment is a daily occurrence. If I’m going to be quite honest, I agree completely. I am deeply careful about how I talk about my problems because I know that I pass so effectively and have privileged family connections that allowed me to transition earlier. Generally these concerns are saved for specific individuals who are unaffected by them, so it’s frustrating to see women post these things publicly in the same way I’d present them privately. An appropriate title might be “Feeling really dysphoric about my jawline today and need some reassurance” instead of “please tell me my chin isn’t manly 🥺”. Receiving the comments could similarly be better, with “thank you!” Instead of "idk tho… ". Though this is something I wouldn’t bring to anyone but a close friend, because I know oftentimes those insecurities are just temporary and require immense grace/caution when approached.


  • Well

    I don’t mean this in any way to diminish or play down the experiences of others

    Please don’t read this if you don’t wanna hear about the bad.

    !But how easy was it to find a space that was safe? It has taken me roughly 2 years to find two people who are on board with everything, and my partners tend to get fired from their workplaces for my presence, and there are frequently straight transphobes at my workplace of effectively 99% gay customers.!<

    Would I choose being trans in EVERY universe? Probably, but I wouldn’t want to live in every universe. I love y’all, I love myself, and I love being trans, but it feels like at least in certain areas, the trans experience only becomes bearably traumatic when we erase from the public eye what makes us trans. I want to be proud to be myself, for people to know and it to warm their hearts. Idk I’m a silly billy and I’m sorry for saying stuff you’ve probably heard a billion WW say



  • Hi, if you’d like to ask questions I’m here.
    You seem curious in other comments so I’d like to hear your thoughts.

    Kinda hard to give you the full picture since I’ve never had a pimp, but I think the cognitive dissonance only really comes up when I’m talking to someone who wants to enter the industry and isn’t understanding the ramifications. Otherwise it’s kinda a “supporting each other’s prison successes” vibe since we feel trapped in the world.






  • I feel like I get this to a degree that makes me uncomfortable. When I tried dating apps, I found that the interactions were so hollow that I never felt like I could be in a relationship with that person.

    This is not necessarily advice because I know how hard it can be when it comes to selecting your partner but both of my partners are trans autistic women and that has made a world of a difference.

    Sometimes the better option is accepting that some neurotypical people have to work twice as hard to accommodate for some of us, and that’s something that is going to make the relationship feel lopsided imo

    Maybe I just am too self conscious tho


  • Babe (I hope that’s okay to use)

    I think that’s one of the autism things

    I do that, and I gotta say it’s not worth the lack of enrichment to keep friends who aren’t at some level here to be excited with me about my special interests.

    It might make sense to mask it in certain situations like with some coworkers, but you’d be doing a disservice to yourself to not surround yourself with supportive friends.

    If it makes you feel better, I’m still working through my shame when it comes to this. I tend to apologize immediately after what I call a “rant” and my loved ones always reassure me that they’re here for it lol