I think sex and love are separate so you can be bisexual but hetero or homo romantic, only really able to love people of one sex. I think most men are sexually opportunistic, too, like even if it’s not their preference they might be able to enjoy something in the moment.

So unless you are some sort of hypocrite who maligns gay men and holds yourself up as some ideal heterosexual while harboring desire for sex with men, there is no problem here, call yourself straight if that’s how you identify.

I would love a dirty jokes and comics community, that sounds awesome.

LemmyNSFW overall, or this Ask community? I think the overall NSFW is growing, there’s a lot of stuff I don’t want to see, and a lot of ads, for lack of a better word, just people promoting their onlyfans. I don’t mind that but often wish we had a big enough userbase for the nonsexual, not commercial nudes stuff. Like in reddit there was naked progress, normal nudes, I loved those threads.

I always think guys cast a wide net, so don’t read too much into it. My understanding is that they imagine fucking plenty of the people they see in a day, is that a misapprehension?

Lemmy is great, fewer people but way less commercial. Wilkommen!

You have such a great figure, we are all our own worst critics I guess. It’s funny how we can look in a mirror and see only what’s wrong - if someone else posted with exactly this body shape I bet you would think she looked great.

I put it in the other thread, but only once has that been transcendent for me. Generally when I am tired I feel much less. I say mornings are for my husband and afternoons are for me, once I am really awake and have had calories and caffeine everything feels better.

There is a desperateness to the exhausted sex that can add something for sure but not worth the tradeoff for me in general.

Is quite nice for an isolated dick pic, lol. Also you do look perfect size btw. But isolated pictures of genitals not my thing.

Absolutely clear minded, stone sober sex is my favorite, I’ve never really enjoyed it as much while drunk or on any drugs except for one time coming down from LSD had an amazing time but I think that was an outlier.

Generally speaking I prefer to feel everything, and I feel it better when starting out clear of mind. And awake, though again, one exception - one time my ex caught me at exactly the right level of sleepiness, I felt like all the inessential layers of personality had been peeled back and it was amazing, relaxed but so intense.

I don’t feel qualified to speak on behalf of womanhood, but would say don’t worry much about being erect, we are looking at the whole body, and just look at it yourself, do you like it? Like if it was a picture of someone else.

Also if you have someone who likes the way you look, let them take pictures, it makes a difference.

Ah. Yeah I am cold when sleeping, not sweaty. But that makes sense. We wash sheets on Fridays and they do not look dirty by then, not worried about being cleaner than that.

In order of preference

BDSM stories (M/f, either perspective but M perspective best)

Other erotica, heterosexual or bisexual ok but like some straight action in there

BDSM still images (M/f)

Artsy nudes for drawing practice, especially male nudes not erect

Fit chicks (inspirational)

Amateur couples where the guy is as hot as the lady

Some of the gay man stuff, particularly D/s or any power imbalance like that.

That’s normal. I plucked mine till they gave up & didn’t come back. Fair skin and dark hair is a lovely complexion but comes with its own challenges, lol.

The fuck? We shower before getting into bed. Makes mornings easier and keeps the bed nicer and I sleep better. They are getting into bed dirty?

None of the ones I worried about. I only wear clothes to bed if I know there is something happening really early (like if I have to take someone to the airport at 4:00) and want to be able to roll out of bed and go. The kids know not to open the door, I have 3 different robes for different temperatures, and husband has shorts ready to jump into in case of emergency - he is more of an early bird than me.

The only thing that really bothers me is dreams. If I am dreaming I’m not sure who is in the bed with me and will panic and put on a shirt before even quite waking up enough to realize I’m with my husband!

What I worried about was the fucking palmetto bugs getting on me (they are outside bugs but get in sometimes in the rainy season and they are my phobia) but the insect apocalypse seems to have reduced their population precipitously, which is terrifying of course but not in the way I had feared. And nothing so urgent and requiring me to be clothed has happened that I would not have time to throw on clothes and flip flops to handle it.

Overall, sleeping naked with my husband is the best.

Is she getting off? I think it’s normal, this happens to my guy (we are your age - ETA: we are both in good shape, and you look like you are too, I don’t think it’s a health thing). If YOU are ok with it and she is getting off, it’s not a problem, you can consider it edging and fuck again later, that’s what we do. Evening is for me, morning for him.

Also - he does sometimes take half a Cialis, if she likes PIV consider it - so hard he feels bigger inside me, it’s great.

The only time it’s a drag is when he really wants to cum at night, it does seem to take forever (though I do get to cum kind of a lot when this happens, I get so exhausted).

So I guess my suggestion, since you sleep together, is just go to sleep when she’s done and take advantage of the morning when you have a better chance of getting off, let that be for you.

Skinny dudes are often packing, in my (admittedly limited) experience and it’s awesome. I agree the phrasing is meh but not your look, you look very fit & hung.

The heck? You think lesbians aren’t having satisfying sex? That they’d be more satisfied with a man? Or that the only reason someone would leave a relationship is for better sex? I don’t understand this at all.

If this is flipped, I’d be somewhat more accepting of my guy leaving me because he decides he’s gay (or decides to accept it) if it’s a sex related breakup. But I don’t think most break-ups are primarily sex related at all.

For every person making thousands, there are thousands of people making pennies, I don’t think it’s worth it. Hustling is such a drag, and to do that as your main source of income very dangerous.

No, I don’t think it’s looked down upon here, there are a lot of commercial accounts, for better or worse I’m not sure, but promoting seems to be allowed.

As a side job it might make sense but I’d strongly suggest (as a mom to lots of kids) finding a trade you can enjoy, if you don’t want to do university. Electrician, barber, welder, mechanic - something skilled will bring in more money with less stress, and you are at a perfect age to start. Even working your way up at Whole Foods or Costco or some other good grocery, there are more jobs than you might think.

I don’t like this picture, but here’s a try at the morning stretches one. Stuck at home today coloring my hair, this was fun, I am not artist but hope you enjoy. Also hope the “draw me” threads take off.