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Cake day: November 17th, 2024

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  • This reads like you and your mother have had a longstanding negative relationship. I don’t believe you or she are in the right place to discuss the extent of your disagreement or the source of it, based on what I’m reading here. Until you are, I think it might be healthier for both of you to walk away for a few years. I don’t know her, so I don’t know if she’s an objectively bad person. What she said, and the actions you’ve described, sound a lot like someone who doesn’t know how to consciously process the emotions around having someone they should love making choices that they find morally reprehensible.

    So I don’t know if she’s a bad person. I can tell that the relationship you have with her is bad, and you should focus on your happiness and coping mechanisms.


  • I’ll put my hand up and say that I will wish I worked harder. My job is simple and i work remote. If I was willing to work harder, I could either move up in the company or move to a competitor. That would get me more money. More money would help me to pay rent on a nicer place to live. And then with the new nice place, I could get the rest of my head in order. So I will absolutely go to my doom wishing I worked harder, put in more hours, and showed a high degree of dedication.








  • I’ve run into similar issues because frankly, the lockdowns of 2020-2023 also shut down my socialization almost completely. I don’t share verbally, but only in pseudonymous settings like social media. In real life, I’m either task-focused (up until last month I was going to board games once a week - I’ve since shut down), taciturn and focused inward, or drunk. I don’t share inner thoughts or opinions. I don’t care much about what others around me say. The biggest problem for me of sober socializing is mostly that I don’t have anyone I’d particularly like to be with, when I’m sober.

    Now that I’m in that spiral, I don’t see a way back.