One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of “Doms” that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you’re handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
Whether you believe in gender norms or not, they are exist and are extraordinarily prevalent. I didn’t mean that as a jab or implication directed at you, just to be clear, but I run into the situation quite a lot. I’m switch with women but exclusively sub with men so maybe it’s a bit more obvious in the gay community where expectations are less clearly defined, but the number of messages I’ll have to screen which essentially amount to “I’m Dom because I’m doing the penetrating” are far too many. Finding neglect for the mental aspects of submission is a very quick way of weeding people out.
There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
You know the feeling of when you take a vacation to someplace new and never want to leave. I imagine the new perspective feels quite a bit like that 😇
One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of “Doms” that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you’re handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human
Whether you believe in gender norms or not, they are exist and are extraordinarily prevalent. I didn’t mean that as a jab or implication directed at you, just to be clear, but I run into the situation quite a lot. I’m switch with women but exclusively sub with men so maybe it’s a bit more obvious in the gay community where expectations are less clearly defined, but the number of messages I’ll have to screen which essentially amount to “I’m Dom because I’m doing the penetrating” are far too many. Finding neglect for the mental aspects of submission is a very quick way of weeding people out.
You know the feeling of when you take a vacation to someplace new and never want to leave. I imagine the new perspective feels quite a bit like that 😇