Quick rundown of being a gender diverse person in Germany:
transphobia is an issue, but i wouldn’t say it seems worse than in other places. How difficult day to day life is depends a lot on how well one passes and fits into the gender binary, but younger people are a lot more accepting if they aren’t chuds, especially in urban areas.
large and thriving trans and nonbinary communities exist in Berlin and the Rhine-Ruhr metropolitan area. This includes a decent coverage of support groups for queer minors. Both are good places to live if you care about things like culture, nightlife and leftist organizing (for the latter, stick to Anti-Imps, keep a healthy distance from Antideutsche). Other major population centers like Hamburg are also ok, more conservative places like Bavaria can be sketchy outside of cities like Munich. Rural areas especially in the eastern states can have a serious nazi problem, but that’s not where the jobs for mobile software engineering typically are.
Immigration will almost certainly hinge on a job visa, and you should get fluent in the language if you want to get naturalized, which both will take a lot of time. You’ll get by with English fairly easily in places like Berlin, especially in your field, but there’s generally a strong pressure towards immigrants to learn our grammatic clusterfuck of a language.
getting nonbinary gender recognized legally is possible even for minors if the parents are on board, and is atm rather uncomplicated if you have to change documents. If that has already been done, existing papers will be accepted. There can still be complications in day to day life, but in theory all government offices and corporations have to offer gender-neutral means of adressing your child (German is a very strongly gendered language, and the attempts to make it more gender inclusive are unfortunately key culture war issues).
if gender affirming care ever becomes relevant for your kid, they should connect to local trans communities by all means before talking to a doctor. It’s not too hard to get by when you know how, but it will require experienced support to go smoothly. This especially holds true for nonbinary people. Also if you ever get German health insurance by all means reject the ePA (electronic patient files), that’s just one big leak of sensitive data waiting to happen.
Quick rundown of being a gender diverse person in Germany:
transphobia is an issue, but i wouldn’t say it seems worse than in other places. How difficult day to day life is depends a lot on how well one passes and fits into the gender binary, but younger people are a lot more accepting if they aren’t chuds, especially in urban areas.
large and thriving trans and nonbinary communities exist in Berlin and the Rhine-Ruhr metropolitan area. This includes a decent coverage of support groups for queer minors. Both are good places to live if you care about things like culture, nightlife and leftist organizing (for the latter, stick to Anti-Imps, keep a healthy distance from Antideutsche). Other major population centers like Hamburg are also ok, more conservative places like Bavaria can be sketchy outside of cities like Munich. Rural areas especially in the eastern states can have a serious nazi problem, but that’s not where the jobs for mobile software engineering typically are.
Immigration will almost certainly hinge on a job visa, and you should get fluent in the language if you want to get naturalized, which both will take a lot of time. You’ll get by with English fairly easily in places like Berlin, especially in your field, but there’s generally a strong pressure towards immigrants to learn our grammatic clusterfuck of a language.
getting nonbinary gender recognized legally is possible even for minors if the parents are on board, and is atm rather uncomplicated if you have to change documents. If that has already been done, existing papers will be accepted. There can still be complications in day to day life, but in theory all government offices and corporations have to offer gender-neutral means of adressing your child (German is a very strongly gendered language, and the attempts to make it more gender inclusive are unfortunately key culture war issues).
if gender affirming care ever becomes relevant for your kid, they should connect to local trans communities by all means before talking to a doctor. It’s not too hard to get by when you know how, but it will require experienced support to go smoothly. This especially holds true for nonbinary people. Also if you ever get German health insurance by all means reject the ePA (electronic patient files), that’s just one big leak of sensitive data waiting to happen.