I cede your point though I respectfully disagree. I am also a father, and I do not game (haven’t in a couple years, really), but I do not see a problem with leisure activity as an adult. Why are you reading a book? Your child is awake. You shouldn’t ever practice a craft, or go on a walk, or have date night, because otherwise you’re not being a “kickass father” to your daughter. I would say your opinion is reactionary to having neglectful parents, and I empathize and I’m glad you’ve found a rewarding path to raise your child. I like to think that I am a good father, empathetic, authoritative, and yet I still take time to write, play guitar, fuck around online. Becoming a parent should not mean negating one’s own desires and quality of life. Children are not parasites, they are individuals.

The people you describe are, I would say, aberrant and their behavior is not becoming of a good parent.