i can’t even guess as to why they went quiet. not one guess at all. we will never know.

edit: well they’re not quiet now once they get called out

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    “Cis people wearing pronoun placards and putting their pronouns in their email signature” is helpful to me due to the number of (cisgender) people named Alex, Jordan, Morgan, Casey, Taylor, Avery Parker or Cameron lol.

    Overall I agree with the gist of what you are saying, it’s just really fucked that you are lumping an incredible spread of wedge issues under “too hung up on getting their pronouns right.” You literally could have just said “wedge issues and messaging failures surrounding trans folk” instead of “pronouns” and I would never have commented.

    Being kind!

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      I use pronouns as an example because it’s 1% of the population and well meaning cis liberals love to virtue signal over it and beat everyone else over the head with it in a smug sense of superiority. In reality, it doesn’t matter at all and shouldn’t even be part of a political platform. It’s bad strategy and stupid, catering to the special feelings of a tiny group of people over the realistic needs of the larger group.

      When it comes to people with gender neutral names, if you’re not sure just ask. Or guess, and if you guessed wrong, apologize. Only the power tripping type are gonna get hung up on it. People misgender me all the time. I don’t care. It’s not out of malice.

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        Really disturbing how you are framing the acceptance of trans people, a matter of life and death, as “special feelings”?

        The Republican platform is to eradicate transgender people. I absolutely will not tolerate criticism of countermessaging that does the bare minimum of calling them the gender they are. Do better.

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          Sorry but you must be young. I lived through the 90s as a visibly queer person. They never accepted us. They never will.

          We need to move the spotlight off of us and onto widely supported policies (pro labor, higher minimum wage, universal healthcare, finance regulation) instead of the dumbest fucking wedge issues of all time.

          The ~decade or so under (mostly) Obama was a fucking blip in history. We’ve always been hated. That’s not going to change. Maybe because I was violently assaulted most of my childhood for being queer I’m a little more attuned to the fact that it was fake acceptance all along.

          But go ahead and focus on people’s precious feelings for being misgendered and continue to lose elections instead of aiming for broad appeal. Broad appeal ≠ killing queers so don’t fucking put words in my mouth. Just another out to brunch liberal…

          Don’t forget the dems were against gay marriage before they were for it (as recently as 2012!), depending on the political winds. They were for don’t ask don’t tell until they were against it. They’re not allies and they never had our best interests at heart. They’re manipulative power hungry assholes and nothing more. The fact that they have queers so bent out of shape over the election results just proves my point. They’re manipulating you. They will gladly throw you off a cliff if republicans campaign for throwing you into a volcano and then they will brag about how they’re the lesser evil and you should vote blue no matter who.

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            You act like I disagree with you or am a card carrying Democrat lol (I’m not and I agree with almost all of this). I revile the concept of vote blue no matter who. I just don’t think it’s fair for you to insert and enforce your experience with gender onto everyone else. As you say yourself:

            People misgender me all the time. I don’t care

            Yet many people do care. For many, the misgendering is enextricably entangled with violence, loss of family, loss of medicine. Who are you to blame these people for their “emotional” experiences with violence and loss?

            It’s not out of malice

            Sounds like you are in a unique and privelaged position here. You shouldn’t speak for others where it is out of malice. Just because you have the privilege to not care right now doesn’t make it okay to use other people’s experience as a downplay.

            Anyway I will end this conversation as it’s clearly not going anywhere. Just be respectful to queer people who share identities and experiences with you eh? It’s not that hard. (And to reiterate one more time since that seems to be your railroaded train of thought, I have no defense of the Democratic Party.)