Might I suggest debt should be the last of your worries? Is there any way you would consider filing for bankruptcy or consumer proposal after and only after you get your housing sorted out and you get settled in?
The retiring thing is something that you may need to take a step back from for now and prioritize getting out of there and getting reestablished. Even if worst case scenario you never end up being able to swing retirement, the peace and functionality you will gain being out of that environment you’re in far outweighs the compromises you may have to realistically establish.
Does your rental have last month’s rent paid up?
I’ll be honest with you: what you have described as your living situation is horrifying and I want you to understand that many people have likely been even more poorly resourced when they made that decision to get out or their hand was forced.
Have been in a bad living situation myself I had to get out of and I didn’t even have a car! 😅And tons of crushing debt to boot. But I found a room, luckily had my rent deposit saved cuz last month’s prepaid and I hired a random guy to help move my shit and pet. It sucked not having my own place but I needed to get stabilized and back to work so it was a lilly pad I needed to nest on temporarily until I bided my time and was ready to apppy for my own apartment.
I’m curious if you could look on your local classifieds website/Craigslist or whatever and see if there’s someone who needs a roomate in a place you can deal with and make that your first baby step towards getting the heck outta there?
If you have your job secure, thats an enormous advantage :) It will be the lever that helps you jaws of life yourself out of this economically and as a support
Your hopefully soon to be ex partner sounds like they are going to be absolutely fucked when you ditch their sorry ass for safety 😅 But you dont have to worry about them, just need to focus on your next moves and the chessgame necessary to get all the pieces in place to checkmate yourself out that game
Thank you. I’m so very overwhelmed with all of this and I’m also only scratching the surface of how bad it all is; I can’t really find the ability to concentrate on all the details anymore. It’s just like endless waves of trauma washing over me and I’m so numb I don’t even notice. I cannot cry anymore, and I just try to make the best out of my days without getting into anything with him. It’s so hard to even review with my therapist because I shut out most of the details. Also I work two jobs, about 11 hours a weekday and 6-8 hours on weekends, and it just makes it hard to accomplish anything or fix anything or feel anything but trying to power through. I hope I can escape too.
Might I suggest debt should be the last of your worries? Is there any way you would consider filing for bankruptcy or consumer proposal after and only after you get your housing sorted out and you get settled in?
The retiring thing is something that you may need to take a step back from for now and prioritize getting out of there and getting reestablished. Even if worst case scenario you never end up being able to swing retirement, the peace and functionality you will gain being out of that environment you’re in far outweighs the compromises you may have to realistically establish.
Does your rental have last month’s rent paid up?
I’ll be honest with you: what you have described as your living situation is horrifying and I want you to understand that many people have likely been even more poorly resourced when they made that decision to get out or their hand was forced.
Have been in a bad living situation myself I had to get out of and I didn’t even have a car! 😅And tons of crushing debt to boot. But I found a room, luckily had my rent deposit saved cuz last month’s prepaid and I hired a random guy to help move my shit and pet. It sucked not having my own place but I needed to get stabilized and back to work so it was a lilly pad I needed to nest on temporarily until I bided my time and was ready to apppy for my own apartment.
I’m curious if you could look on your local classifieds website/Craigslist or whatever and see if there’s someone who needs a roomate in a place you can deal with and make that your first baby step towards getting the heck outta there?
If you have your job secure, thats an enormous advantage :) It will be the lever that helps you jaws of life yourself out of this economically and as a support
Your hopefully soon to be ex partner sounds like they are going to be absolutely fucked when you ditch their sorry ass for safety 😅 But you dont have to worry about them, just need to focus on your next moves and the chessgame necessary to get all the pieces in place to checkmate yourself out that game
Thank you. I’m so very overwhelmed with all of this and I’m also only scratching the surface of how bad it all is; I can’t really find the ability to concentrate on all the details anymore. It’s just like endless waves of trauma washing over me and I’m so numb I don’t even notice. I cannot cry anymore, and I just try to make the best out of my days without getting into anything with him. It’s so hard to even review with my therapist because I shut out most of the details. Also I work two jobs, about 11 hours a weekday and 6-8 hours on weekends, and it just makes it hard to accomplish anything or fix anything or feel anything but trying to power through. I hope I can escape too.
I understand, that sounds incredibly harrowing.
I’ll leave you with step one which is
Thats all you need to think about for now, just do that for me and keep your chin up best you can. Night 🤫 stay safe
I’ll start looking. Thank you friend. It’s been a very hard week.
Better days lay ahead, keep me posted 😇. Remember, just stick to step 1 and update me when you’ve tackled that. I’ll DM u now just to make contact