stigsbandit34z [they/them]@hexbear.net to neurodiverse@hexbear.netEnglish · 30 days ago

I sure do wish I could talk about anything other than life things when meeting people at parties

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I sure do wish I could talk about anything other than life things when meeting people at parties

stigsbandit34z [they/them]@hexbear.net to neurodiverse@hexbear.netEnglish · 30 days ago

That’s like the one of the only ways I’ve managed to meet people (THROUGHOUT MY ENTIRE LIFE) and it sucks so so fucking much because finding someone who is reciprocative to that type of shit is so damn hard-especially in the era of instagram reels and TikTok

Is there a way to learn to socialize “normally” I’ve learned that I’m going to be very lonely if I don’t figure out how especially with my current career (god this just reminds me of how soulless my current job is)

I’m really starting to learn how my brain chemistry almost lines up with my politics (as in how I am foolishly passionate about how I would prefer everyone be forced to live with the same amount of resources and be forced to understand how it’s not about the community.

But yeah sometimes that shit comes out at inopportune times and I have legit seen it make my friends lose their jobs

But yes this still explains why I need to learn better acceptable small talk and how to approach bringing up that small talk without seemingly coming out of nowhere

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Usually what people do for work and their outlook on the sociopolitical landscape is about as far as it goes for me tbh

Ya low the more that I yap about this, the more I’m concerned that I’m just staying in my comfort zone and don’t know how to get out.

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