• i_love_FFT@lemmy.ml
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    1 month ago

    Also, any neurodivergent person will share some common experience coming from not being part of the matin group… I have many friends with ASD, while I’m ADHD.

    While we are very different, we also get along so well because we share the fact that our behaviours and tastes are unexpected. We have much greater patience for other people’s “quirks”!

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      1 month ago

      I honestly wonder if i have ASD. Cuz there are quite a few more symptoms of ASD that I have. But my psychiatrist told me not to seek a formal diagnosis mostly cuz its so difficult to get in germany and it has more downs and ups for an adult.

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        1 month ago

        If you’re unsure about yourself and an official diagnostic would help you know, then id say go for it.

        If you know yourself, then an official paper won’t change you. It will only be useful for external recognition, and then that’s very dependent on the system in which you live.

        That being said, I’m just a person with no training on this topic. You should put your psychiatrist advice before mine!

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          1 month ago

          Yeah, its a bit strange that even now there are some downsides to having an official diagnosis. I remember reading about a court case where a father was not able to get custody of his children because he was diagnosed with ASD. So even though we pretend there aren’t any repercussions for having a disorder, there still are edge cases like this.

          Personally I think it stems from the stigma around ASD.

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            1 month ago

            In Germany? :o

            As a diagnosed German I can tell you not much changes, there’s virtually no therapy for adult autistics. I understand why your doc said that.

            Though there was one large benefit for me and it’s that after we applied for disability the Arbeitsamt got much more lenient with me and was actually useful in helping me find a job.

            In the end, if you can’t let go, seek the diagnosis, if not, take from autistic communities whatever little tricks help you, discard what doesn’t and call it a day. Much less trouble :)

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            1 month ago

            Yeah… That’s why I keep silent about my ADHD diagnosis at work, even if I’m one of the senior whom helps everyone with everything while also handling the more complex projects…

            Somehow, I know that there would still be some stigma around it… :(