• rockSlayer@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      True, but it’s also inevitable that you’re going to meet people by going to a gym. Don’t interrupt people, but if they appear like they’re open to conversation it’s ok to ask if they want to talk.

      • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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        I went to the gym for about 9 months straight in 2021. I didn’t have one conversation, and that was exactly how I wanted it. I don’t want to meet a banging girl that has a thick gym body so all my bro friends can think I’m the man while she walks around the entire gym pretending to not be showing off in those tight pants that go up her cracks. I don’t want a bro friend to give me diet suggestions and brag about how he has figured a workout regiment better than all the physiologists in the world. I want to workout, listen to my music from my ear buds, stim and process my anger between sets, and talk to myself without anyone looking at me.

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          Generally speaking I don’t want to talk to people at the gym, or anyway really. But if a hot girl wants to talk to me and then sleep with me, I suppose I’ll put up with it. You have to be polite right.

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          That’s fine and you’re entitled to that experience. If someone misunderstands your body language, all you have to do is politely decline the offer to talk.

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      Here’s a list of acceptable things to say to strangers in a gym:

      • Are you using that?
      • How many sets do you have left?
      • Could you spot me? (only for bench)

      None of these should turn the stranger into someone you know. None of these should lead to intercourse.

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      I kept to this rule, but it was so fucking annoying.

      I did bouldering to lose weight, and played card games for fun, went to death metal shows for art and worked in software.

      No women at work, no women at gigs, no women at card games, shouldn’t be picking up women at the climbing center.

      I’m married with a daughter now , but Jesus Christ it wasn’t easy getting there.

      EDIT : To clarify, the “no women at work” thing refers to adding women to my friends circle for networking to meet non-work women. OBV I wasn’t hoping to pick up women at work for the same reason as not wanting to pick them up at the climbing center.