I wouldve been the best miss andrist (painted nail emoji)

  • autismdragon [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    4 months ago

    I think some people need to be careful to to not accidentally echo the “women ride the cock carousel of alphas and then eventually settle down for beta bux” line of incel/red pill thought. That discourse seemed to bring out some stuff that was like, uncomfortably close to that just said in less harsh language.

    Even though straight people (especially, queer people do this too just less frequently) do sometimes fall into patterns of settling for partners they dont actually love. Like thats not inaccurate. Its just, sometimes when you talk about that it can come off like I said above.

    • Egon [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      4 months ago

      I think I only saw one person directly alluding to that kinda discourse.
      But that is because, to me, saying you would be hurt if your partner said they settled for you isn’t the same as saying that your partner just had a bunch of sex and now uses you for money or whatever or that you think a person “settling” for someone is doing it for those reasons. Settling can just be that a person doesn’t find you attractive in some aspect that is important to them, but your other qualities make up for it.

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      4 months ago

      I think people need to hold the fuck back on toxic feminism that only perpetuates the patriarchy and harms people of color.

      Going to war on men because a 3 line post stated this dude had hurt feelings by an alleged comment his wife made is just not conducive to anything positive