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    • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
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      4 months ago

      At the same time, I don’t see such a problem with just straightforwardly asking for pronouns, or doing introduction pronoun circles.

      If it’s an explicitly queer event, maybe. But I don’t want people asking me pronouns at work, for example. Lots of pretty blatant homophobia and transphobia around here, so I rather people just incorrectly assume I’m a guy for now so it doesn’t affect my ability to earn money.

      Imo, offering your own during an introduction is enough to provide an implicit offer for someone else to share without pressuring them to do so. Doing so should be more normalized.

      Anyways, I’ve never seen a pronoun circle as far as I remember and I’ve only essentially been asked my pronouns once (which was at work and I just ignored the question) except like my brother asked I came out.

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      5·
      4 months ago

      then some people will be forever mis-gendered by everyone

      I know cri

      I just want people to look at me and think “damn that’s a girl.”, yaknow? Even if I don’t pass (realistically no way I’ll ever fully pass in queer spaces), just like, know what I’m going for. Honestly I think its because of that not passing that makes me upset.

      The everyone and consistently is a big thing for me. I’m surprised you’ve heard cis people complaining about it, I feel like I see trans people complaining about them more. That might be skewed by where I’m hanging out online though.

      No it all sounds very reasonable, and I agree. I got very worked up.