After two users admitted to doxxing me, and another admitted to digging through all of my past posts and comments, I decided to deleted my past posts. One user put my name, and my husband’s name into a comment box on one of my posts, and then tried to claim he hadn’t doxxed me for that information.
Another user decided to stalk my page, and then followed me to a post about my cat, where he proceeded to tell me I needed mental help for all of my other posts and comments. I called him out for stalking my page and digging through all of my past posts and comments in order to tell me that. I think stalkers need mental help, and a Lemmy user named Steak is totally a stalker. So to prevent people like that from digging through all of my past comments and posts, I have decided to delete many of them. Stalking is a mental illness, and many Lemmy readers don’t want to admit that. I hope readers like him seek mental help. There isn’t something wrong with searching for a missing spouse. There is something wrong with stalking and doxing a woman you’ve never met.
Information posted publicly on a public site is… public, anyone can see and use it.
Always keep that in mind
I didn’t post my name and my husband’s name. I also didn’t post our court documents. Some Lemmy reader did some internet digging and doxxing to find our names and personal information, and proceeded to publish it in goodoffmychest. He broke the rules. It wasn’t something I had posted on this site. I think you misunderstood my post.
You want me to be honest with you? Screenshot all this information, everything you have and take the dam. Lemmy instance owner to court. I mean, fuck them, dude. That’s so shitty. It’s their responsibility to make sure that they mitigate and take down doxing. Type of information and if they can’t do that, they shouldn’t be operating a fucking website. I’m sorry you’re going through this
I did screenshot the person’s comments, or what I could see of them, after deleting my posts. The person clearly posted my first and last name in the link, along with my husband’s name.
Jesus Christ. I’m messaging you now. I’ll help you with this
Thank you
Hey so you obviously have some issues to sort through, so I’m going to respond this once to clear the record, then go back to be blissfully unaware of your existence. You literally did post your name, you shared a PayPal fundraiser begging for money, and that had your name and location in it. Like literally, saying you didn’t post your name is completely wrong.
You stalked my profile to find that PayPal link, which didn’t have my name displayed, unless you followed my link. I wasn’t begging for money, I simply stated that my cat had major medical bills and that if people wanted to help, it would be appreciated. Last month was financially tough with non-typical expenses, but veterinary bills made it more difficult. You didn’t just see my name on a PayPal link. You used my name to research personal information about me and my family.
You don’t need or owe this person an explanation. They are a stranger and mentally unwell.
I personally wouldn’t engage anymore. Wishing u the best.
Thank you. I appreciate your help!
💯❤️
They have been permanently banned from our instance.
Really? I didn’t even know. Thank you for being concerned and notifying the mods.
Of course. Banned from my instance (hilariouschaos.com) I am not sure if it federates to other instances though. So check in with ur home instance (you’re on lemmy.world right?) And report them there. @Ruud is one of the main admins there I believe, and he seems genuine in his efforts in this situation. His comment is top in this thread
Are you fucking insane ?
BACK THE FUCK OFF.
It doesn’t matter whether she did or did not do that the fact that you are fucking so goddamn persistent over here trying to make some case like you didn’t do a damn thing wrong. Is fucking absolute psychotic out of your mind bullshit. You’re spreading her fucking information and you’re actively doing it on purpose. The fact that you went out of your way and you keep going out of your way to post her shit online is proof of that
I am not going to condone any doxxing behavior, but you definitely made it very easy for these people giving them information that, if they didn’t have, would have probably made it impossible to figure out. So while their behavior isn’t right, I think like others mention in this thread, you have to be very careful with the information you divulge online. Be careful out there.
I didn’t give the person my name to dox.
Nobody deserves to be stalked or doxxed, and anybody doing that is in the wrong.
As a separate point, just from what I can see on your profile now, you have put a remarkable amount of identifying information in your Lemmy posts. I’m pretty cavalier about the possibility of someone connecting my account to my identity, but you are orders of magnitude beyond anything I would feel personally comfortable posting. I seriously believe you can protect yourself from these things if you modify your posting habits.
For example, you have photos of your face posted, high school photos that could be shared on other people’s social media, current photos of your head and identifying features, pictures of bills that identify local businesses you use (you didn’t black everything out successfully)…that was just what I noticed in about 10 seconds of glancing. With reverse image searches, it would be trivial to find some of those photos on a classmates Facebook where you have been tagged with your real name.
As a general rule, never post personal media to Lemmy that you intend to post somewhere else (or that someone else may post who can identify you). Once a photo appears in two places, it becomes a lot easier to start connecting dots.
You mean a picture of me where I am in a group of other people? I didn’t say which person I am in that photo.
Hi, I’ll assist. Let me look into this.
Thank you so much for helping her ❤️
Admins can purge the mod. Log. Ask them to do that. I don’t know why they didn’t. That’s messed up
I reported the comments to the mods, but I never received a reply.
There seems to be only one mod here, and they were last active 8 days ago. You might want to reach out to LW admins.
How do I reach the LW mods via the mobile app? I don’t see a place to find their usernames on here.
Girl DM me ill fucking help you seriously hit me up this is ridiculous
Go directly to the server instance admin. They’re the ones operating the software on their computer they should be liable.
Community mod is just any dumb ass off the street. They only have a ban and remove button and don’t operate or have access to the software and database like SERVER admins do
I’m not saying that to scold you. I’m just trying to let you know, so you’re aware you know what I mean, that’s all
