Listen up fuckers, cause none of this applies to anybody on this site specifically and I’m just bitching.
I don’t have to accomodate neurotypicals who say horseshit like “I don’t want to keep a tone tag reference sheet open to have a conversation though”, that has officially stopped being a me problem. Similarly, if your response to that is “Communication is a two-way street, so a communication issue is often also a two-way thing”, that doesn’t sound like I have to accomodate YOUR misunderstanding of MY words, however you have decided to read them. If you decide even in spite of tone tags that I’m being an asshole, frankly get fucked and go decide someone else’s emotional state for them. Hell, even if I didn’t use tone tags, I shouldn’t be required to fucking defend myself from your literal spurious accusations. I’ve had enough of your disingenuous assertions.
I’m pretty understanding about misreads, just ask me what I meant instead of fucking assuming the absolute worst in people all the time, and also do not go around expecting neurodiverse people to accomodate whatever YOU read into their words all the time. Your fucking problem. It’s not their job to sort out your preconceptions and accept whatever emotions you decide for them, which was the point of what I was saying anyway. Ableist shit.
This type of thing has become pretty traumatic over the course of like ten of exactly this type of bullshit, so I don’t have the will to cause problems and fight about it but I’m also not willing to constantly cede ground for free to neurotypical expectations.
This is because many people are illiterate. Literacy is more than just understanding all the words in front of you. Understand the intended audience is part of it. Understanding tone from what is written is another. Understanding the implicit meaning is another. Understanding the subject of the material another. Understanding the entirety of it and how each part works together to convey the message is another.
People are seriously lacking ALL OR MOST of these skills. It is a literacy problem. When you see someone respond to a tweet putting “some people” on blast as if it pertained to them personally, they are illiterate. They lack reading comprehension skills. They did not understand the subject and intended audience of the tweet. It may be due to some cognitive or learning issue but usually it is not. They simply cannot read well and were never really taught well. I find that this is largely Americans who have this issue.
It is not an online thing. This is a problem in general.
It’s kind of a selfown when they respond to a nonspecifically-targeted statement as if it’s targeted at them, like oh so you’re one of the neurotypical bastards I’m talking about here?? I wish it was burger specific but this person lists their timezone as GMT+1, lmao.
I hate that this is a general problem, I thought it was a terminally-online, touch-grass thing…
It is frustrating. How about the words, “many people”. It doesn’t mean “most people” or even “the majority of of people”. “Many” isn’t a reference to a percentage of people at all. 10 people can be “many” or 1 billion people. How many times I have typed, “many Americans” or “many men” or something like that and gotten back “you can’t make a blanket statement like that it’s not ALL of them” is so goddamn consistent. Some would argue this is a communication issue and I firmly disagree because I think the majority of people underwstand this but it’s always a small subset who don’t. This is a literacy problem. At some point the goddamn reader needs to have some basic literacy skills and understand what the words mean and how they work with each other.
It’s always in defense of privileged groups when they reply like that too, lol. I feel that sometimes people deliberately misread statements like that so they can air out their NOTALLMEN shit too.
Well, it’s always the group they belong to, whether privileged or not. They’ll do it on noncontroversial statements, too, and ones that aren’t even negative. Which gives up the game that it’s not something being done defensively. It is truly a literacy issue.