Seriously why? Discuss.online has horrible moderation and open-signups, and Lemm.ee isn’t very much better. If lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works were completely nuked to avoid the moderation headache or risks from two large open servers, why aren’t lemm.ee and discuss.online banned as well?
I second that one, lemmynsfw is something else entirely. Not just that it’s porn but porn instances attract less savory people, especially bots and OF promoters (which are almost the same thing) so probably would be a good idea to axe them for instance health.
Well, there is a problem with porn currently in general in that we live in a patriarchal & misogynistic society so the kind of porn that is created often reflects that, objectifying women (and perhaps other genders in different ways).
I don’t see lemmynsfw being a solution to this whatsoever from what I’ve seen.
So yes whilst porn itself could technically be respectful and create something better, give better examples, it doesn’t.
I do not see the problem necessarily with promoting OF etc as sex workers do have to make money and that is their job, however the less savory people who are attracted by the types of porn I listed above do often have problematic views, so agree with you there.