A message from a Hexbear user - Blåhaj Lemmy
lemmy.blahaj.zone
Hello Blahaj users, Unfortunately we have been discussing defederation. I would like for this to be sorted out, but our trans and disabled users deserve to be protected from transphobia and ableism. We know these are behaviors are perpetrated by a minority of Blahaj users, but they are tolerated here in the form of the 196 community. Of course, most Hexbear users are willing to re-federate once this bigoted community is removed. The admin Ada has been very helpful and I have faith in her to do the right thing for the safety of her community members. In the meantime, I would like to extend an invitation to all leftists here to make an account on Hexbear. As long as you are anti-capitalist, you will be welcome there. We are hyper-inclusive and are strict against all forms of bigotry. There has been much disinformation spread about us, so if you have good faith questions, feel free to ask. We are not “pro-Russia” as many of our detractors claim, we are anti-NATO, as they perpetuate the amerikan empire. Please ask us anything in this thread! We hope this defederation is temporary, or better yet, never comes. We do not wish to split two large queer instances just weeks after federating, but we must do what we think is right. Trans rights forever! trans-heart [https://www.hexbear.net/pictrs/image/aec9b839-d11e-4611-9263-60a84384ac89.png]

i was trying to be tactful, respectful, and understanding by posting this thread for ppl to ask questions abt our beautiful hexbear. i didnt get any questions.

it took 4 hours for Ada, their admin, to respond. she locked the thread shortly after responding her reply above was disheartening, as she seemed willing to work with us previously. equating ableism to a dunk tank post is just vile. and claiming the transphobia in 196 is “a specific event that occurred around a month ago” proves she didnt read any of our concerns. i didnt know abt that event, im sure most of us here dont. our concerns are rooted in the chasers of 196 (non-trans ppl who fetishize trans ppl). someone replied to her saying we were “concern-trolling”. is it that unbelievable that we care abt not having bigotry in the same space as us. i want to grab some of these users by the shoulders, shake them, and yell, “WE ARE BEING GENUINE. WE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT PROVIDING A SAFE, SUPPORTIVE SPACE FOR ALL PEOPLE, AND YOUR COMMUNITY IS ALIENATING TRANS AND DISABLED PEOPLE!!”

responses were not very positive of us

they think this is a bit! lol, lmao even! this whole thing has me jokerfication

this chain of comments particularly upset me “its a troll”. my pronouns are right next to my name, and “it” isnt one of them (even tho thats 100% a valid pronoun to prefer)

this one had me fully jokerfied

and the cherry on top warranted its own post https://hexbear.net/post/373453

    • CriticalResist8@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
      36·
      1 year ago

      We don’t need to, they already defederated from us without ever talking to us.

      If they think bearing with the hex was bad, wait until they get us if they ever decide to try again. We’re not half as patient as hexbear is with liberals, though I appreciate their effort to make this federation work with blahaj

        • CriticalResist8@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
          15·
          1 year ago

          I’m not entirely sure how federation/defederation works since it’s one way, from what I understand the posts that were federated remain, and one of the two parties can still comment and be seen, but the other can’t? It’s not super well documented yet

          • ImOnADiet@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
            8·
            1 year ago

            the way it works is that blahaj (or any other instance that’s defederated lemmygrad) won’t federate any of its posts/comments made on comms hosted on its instance to lemmygrad, so we won’t see those, but if they comment or post on a comm that’s hosted on an instance that still federates with lemmygrad (eg. hexbear), hexbear will take that post/comment and federate it to every instance it’s federated with, it doesn’t check to see if the instance of that post/comment defederates from of the instances it sends it out to, it sends them all out, and so we’re able to see it, unless we also defederated the original instance.

    • stardust [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      15·
      1 year ago

      As someone that created an account here after the drama on blahaj, I’m disappointed to see so many sweeping generalizations of the people that used the instance

      • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        11·
        1 year ago

        meow-hug glad to see new people, hope you like the new /c/traa community :) will be putting some gas in the engine after i wake up from my next sleep

        • stardust [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          8·
          1 year ago

          Thanks, I checked it out a bit. Looking forward to seeing more posts populate.

          I’m still not sure if I’m going to stay, hexbear seems a little chaotic at best coming from blahaj, and a lot of the users are pretty aggressive. But I’m here for now

            • stardust [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              6·
              1 year ago

              A lot of the aggressiveness I’m referring to is directed at blahaj users in general, not any specific users that have interacted in bad faith. Just people here calling all of blahaj conservatives or other badmouthing.

              I’m just saying as someone coming from blahaj I see a lot of hostility that feels directed at me

              • ZoomeristLeninist [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
                11·
                1 year ago

                yeah that is unfair. but there is that old adage: if nine people are eating at a table, a nazi joins, and nobody leaves, then those are 10 nazis eating together

                i have only seen the behavior ur talking abt from lemmygrad users. they are sometimes harsher on liberals than us

                i can promise none of it is directed at you. you came over here so you obviously recognized how blahaj was problematic. any blahaj users who migrate here are welcome cat-trans

          • kristina [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
            7·
            1 year ago

            35 posts, 200 comments in a day is pretty good, but those are rookie numbers 🤔 gonna be planning some coordinated campaigns to up the amount of trans people on this site.