I agree, but this is kind of a “squares and rectangles” type of deal for me. Although not everyone who aligns with my politics will be compatible with me, anyone who is truly compatible with me will have a decent degree of alignment with my politics.

I speak from experience, as my former partner with whom I recently broke up was a lot more libby than I am for sure, and that was a major contributing factor to our breakup, among other things. I had no doubt that she had her heart in the right place for whatever she believed politically, but it’s something that I just could not see myself having any negotiability on. Mind you, I loved and admired her very deeply, but once these differences entered the frame, that love began to dwindle more and more with time.

Everyone’s different in how they handle their own view of compatibility, so it’s not something that could be universally applicable across all people in the dating scene. Some people will care a lot about having political compatibility to a point where anything else is a dealbreaker, and others are a lot more relaxed about it, to a point where I’ve heard of socialists dating conservatives.

For me? My existence is insanely “political,” being black, neurodivergent, non-binary, pansexual, transfeminine, etc. These intersections politicized my existence so much that I wasn’t able to hate myself or even remotely perceive myself as a human being deserving of basic rights and respect until I embraced radical leftism, and I’d like nothing besides a partner who espouses the same or similar ideals.