• nerdydaddy@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    About half and half. If I’m masturbating to something, it’s usually amateur work because porn has been really meh for a while now.

  • HeyJoe@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    Seeing these comments makes me a bit nervous lol. Honestly, it’s probably been a very long time since I used my imagination over porn. I do think of other things while it’s playing, but that’s different and still porn. It’s also gotten worse over the years, to the point that I actually need a real person to talk with so cam girls help with that, but it’s expensive… so I only do that once every 3-4 months as a treat.

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      8 months ago

      The shine for porn has worn off a bit for me too. You might find messing with AI role play or story generation something to take the edge off for less money . For me it adds a bit of the excitement in discovering how my virtual partner will respond that can feel a bit like the excitement of being surprised by a real partner. It’s not perfect by any stretch but if your looking for something to scratch and itch for less than a cam girl.

      Nothing wrong with wanting interaction with a real person either. This might be something you go to in addition to irl partner , or maybe just not a good time, and I don’t know your personal circumstances and don’t want to patronise, but just in case you need to hear it; don’t give up on finding someone to share your sexuality and/or love with irl. You have good in you, and even though the world isn’t fair and some of us find it more difficulty than others, there’s someone out there for everyone. Keep putting yourself out there and treating people with kindness.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    8 months ago

    Every time.

    Never have been very into porn as a whole as an adult, and after the internet kinda killed porn that isn’t gonzo or fake amateur, it has become a turn off more often than not.

    So, if I’m going to handle business, I prefer to rely on memory or imagination. It’s more satisfying.

    I’m not saying I never look at porn, but it isn’t about being aroused and masturbating, it’s about running across something curious and wanting to see if the click bait title matches the actual clip. It rarely does.

    I do have some old porn on vhs and dvd though. Dunno why I keep it other than not wanting to just have things in a landfill when they’re functional. Most of it came as freebies when ordering more useful things from adam & eve back in the day. I even have this one gay porn tape my best friend left behind when he moved out to marry his husband and such. It’s basically a Pygmalion as porn thing. Kinda cool visuals, if you ignore the buttsex.

    I think I even have one of those girls gone wild DVDs that my nephew got when he lived with us as a teenager. Again, he moved out and didn’t take all of his porn stash lol.

    I don’t have a problem with porn, if that isn’t obvious, I just don’t get anything out of it usually, and find it empty for self pleasure.

    I think the last actual porn I watched was last year, towards the end of summer. That was just a clip on lemmy. Now, I see plenty of nudes and still images scrolling the all feed on lemmy, until I block the C/, but there’s always a new C/ popping up just isn’t fap material for me.

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    8 months ago

    Historically always “something”, ever since I discovered my first playboy when I was a kid. Still 99% something but I do find myself less and less inspired by live action porn.

    Drawn porn is a bit more creative when it comes to scenarios and kink so I find that when I can, but even then I find it harder to discover stuff that tickles the brain. If I just want to cum, just to physically check the box, then I don’t need anything, but if I want the full mental experiences then I want something that’s going to surprise me a little.

    I mention this because with generative AI and such the lines are beginning to blur for me. I’ve found quite a lot of excitement using AI to generate erotica or role play really out-their scenarios which end up being a combination of my imagination and existing material. I find it exciting to really tap into weird ideas with my imagination, but still have the excitement of a possible surprise that comes from consuming something created by another person. It can even feel like playing with a real partner, some excitement about how “they” will respond to a scenario, while being able to selfishly let loose with any desire or perversion.

    Playing with AI to write porn in turn made me remember my early sexual awakening writing dirty stories back and forth on good ole’ msn with video partners as a teen.

    So yeah in my life 99% something, but I’m trying to rediscover the imagination aspect, and I’m finding AI an interesting way back to that .

  • ExhibiCat@lemmynsfw.com
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    8 months ago

    For me half and half. Sometimes I’m just playing with myself, especially if I’m in a really sensitive mood. Often I just edge when I do it like that and not come and then the next day I’m really sensitive 🥰

    But sometimes I’m in a more porny mood and then I watch porn, especially VR. I love the vids from VREdging. They’re usually pretty gentle, slow, lots of eye contact and s bit ASMRey in terms of sound.

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    8 months ago

    98% of the time imagination for me. Probably 2% actively “to” something but maybe 10% of the time in response to something I saw or read. Just never really while watching porn or anything like that.

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    8 months ago

    how into masturbation do y’all get? (genuine) i’m not really working my imagination for this, i’m pretty much just exercising a mechanical function here… don’t get me wrong, i enjoy the hell out of it. but the porn is pretty much just another type of stimulation for me, i’m not really invested in it

    if i’m imagining something, it’s usually a more involved type of simulation (e.g. penetrative / prostate play)

    but if i’m just exercising my dick with a stroker? it’s kinda just mindless fun

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    7 months ago

    I’m very much a erotica/hentai/doujin kinda gal, but less “consuming media while i masturbate” and more “Consuming media to build more specific fantasies for later”

    Hot photos of people or hot art/illustrations are both good for me, but i don’t really get off to most porn with real actors in it. There are a couple of kink/niche sites that do it for me though